Mrs C
Distinguished member
- Joined
- Jun 30, 2011
- Messages
- 116
- Reason
- CALS
- Country
- US
- State
- MN
- City
- Rochester
Although we are told of the obvious outcome of this horrible disease, we are also told about "those that live much longer." Naturally, we cling to the positive, the hope that OUR loved one is going to be one of those. As things start out with light symptoms, you make those smaller adjustments, go to every clinic appointment, and basically go through life like not much has really changed. When things start getting worse and scarier you tend to become more dependent on your doctors and ALS Clinic team, yet turn down offers of friends and family help and spot because "nah, thanks, we'll be fine..." You continue to go through your daily life basically in denial. Every clinic appointment you come away with yet one more reason to stay positive "well, he is still eating, breathing, and talking on his own, so we're good with that...." And then after the PEG is placed you think "at least he is not losing weight anymore and everything he gets is healthy!" one thing after another happens and you keep adjusting: chair lift, lift chair, walker, wheelchair, etc. And then one awful day, what seems like out of the left field comes those words you do not want to hear "it's time to put him into hospice care. He might have up to 6 months or even less." WHAM-O!you look at each other, embrace, cry, repeat. All the while reviewing and reaffirming his advanced directive of to trache or not. You listen to more, demand justification, resolve to the facts and go home. The first thing was to inform family, siblings and children. You then realize you have so much more than a sad, unthinkable situation. You have now got the power of family, support, and strength, which will get you through and make his time left on this earth more at ease because he knows you and his children will be well taken care of after he is gone. But you know what?! IT STILL SUCKS!:-x We will cling to every last day, moment, and memory while doing everything we can to "just act like everything is normal, he's more at ease that way." it is not easy, but yet very rewarding. You laugh, talk, and even shed a few tears, trying to stay on the positive side; to now "prove that doctor wrong!" Man, I hate this disease.