Narrowminded
Extremely helpful member
- Joined
- Apr 30, 2016
- Messages
- 2,851
- Reason
- Lost a loved one
- Diagnosis
- 07/2007
- Country
- US
- State
- PA
- City
- Pittsburgh
If you've read through roll call, you know my FIL is soon about to gain his angle wings from Cancer. Brian is doing better today than any other. DD and I were at the hospital to see him and he's not truly awake. I was able to facetime with our son, so Brian could see him.
Brian's been having anxiety attacks with this, but for whatever reason seeing his dad in the shape he is now, didn't cause one with our son here. Maybe he's gotten to the acceptance phase.
It's interesting because the particular SIL that is so full of classic lines also could not grasp that I've been watching my husband die right before my eyes for 12 years now. Her main comment was "not like this" I was like when he had sepsis he was worse than this. She said well yeah. She truly does not get that her brother is dying, and there is no way I understand the emotions connected with it.
I also told her that I was with my grandfather when he passed. In the room, watched the last breath. Oh she says.
I don't think she will ever get it. I think when it comes Brian's turn, she'll probably be like - I didn't think he was that bad. Well, I have mentioned here before that with the years with the vent has put us in the comfort place like things won't change and i definitely think it's done that for her.
On a brighter note, after the Hospice nurse was done with my FIL and everything she needed to do there, I was able to privately pull her aside and ask her about her hospice and whether they work with vented patients. I told her the one I had contacted, and I had not found the contact info for this one, said that Brian wasn't eligible.
We had a really good convo and she is going to call me and let me know what she finds out. So very helpful.
Just feeling a bit down today with all that is transpiring and also trying to help DH as he has to watch this all from a far. He was always a take charge kind of guy and I know not being able to be there with his family is very hard on him.
Hugs,
Sue
Brian's been having anxiety attacks with this, but for whatever reason seeing his dad in the shape he is now, didn't cause one with our son here. Maybe he's gotten to the acceptance phase.
It's interesting because the particular SIL that is so full of classic lines also could not grasp that I've been watching my husband die right before my eyes for 12 years now. Her main comment was "not like this" I was like when he had sepsis he was worse than this. She said well yeah. She truly does not get that her brother is dying, and there is no way I understand the emotions connected with it.
I also told her that I was with my grandfather when he passed. In the room, watched the last breath. Oh she says.
I don't think she will ever get it. I think when it comes Brian's turn, she'll probably be like - I didn't think he was that bad. Well, I have mentioned here before that with the years with the vent has put us in the comfort place like things won't change and i definitely think it's done that for her.
On a brighter note, after the Hospice nurse was done with my FIL and everything she needed to do there, I was able to privately pull her aside and ask her about her hospice and whether they work with vented patients. I told her the one I had contacted, and I had not found the contact info for this one, said that Brian wasn't eligible.
We had a really good convo and she is going to call me and let me know what she finds out. So very helpful.
Just feeling a bit down today with all that is transpiring and also trying to help DH as he has to watch this all from a far. He was always a take charge kind of guy and I know not being able to be there with his family is very hard on him.
Hugs,
Sue
