This thread has givin me much to think about. Instead of feeling bad and resentful, I tried being extra thankful and loving. For two days every time my husband walked By me I asked for a kiss on my head and called him some silly, yet affectionate term endearment. This made us both laugh, and definitely lightened the mood. Last night, instead of putting me in bed and retreating to his tv, he put on a movie and laid in bed with me. So sweet.
I realized that I am the one that is feeling unlovable, and disgusted with my own body. He is exhausted and doing the best he can. We both needed to hit the reset button, and it worked.
Thanks Vince for starting this important discussion, and all the input and replies from Pals and cals.