Hi folks,
Please forgive me if I am briefly invading your space ..... After having a "vivid" dream, trying not to return to the nightmare, I would normally be joining my "family" on the Parkinson's forum site. I have been lurking here for some time...making every effort not to enter into the discussion at this point.
However, reading this thread.......discovering the diverse personalities...has touched my heart. I have had Parkinson's since 2011...diagnosed since 2013. Without meds, I am at a 3+ with 5 being at end stage.
My husband has recently been seen by my Neuro who put him on the fast track to rule out Parkinsons (PD).....but at the same time is considering ALS as a possible dx. As I have searched this forum, I am discovering that my husband (DH) is classic for the symptoms . I am following my own advice I would give to a PD newbie, and not speculating ...dealing only with "knowns"....and awaiting a report of findings on March 8.
However, this thread struck a nerve. I have pleaded and vented on our forum for care givers (CG's) to speak the truth about advanced stages....to let us with PD (PWP) know what it looks like down the road. They hesitate in fear of depressing PWP....they form personal exchange groups, and provide support to each other in the "shadows". In their desire to protect PWP from the reality and "darkness", they have placed all care givers in the background....where no light exposes THEIR reality. Their selflessness has unintended consequences......few people...including budget writers for government agencies and non profits...really understand the demanding role of CG's /CALS.
I applaud this discussion. In the pursuit to maintain positive "vibes" for persons with chronic illnesses, our major diseases are commonly portrayed as shoes absent from persons....or spokesmen who show little signs of the disease and appear to continue in their full capacity. Yet, at the same time, we see commercials of real truth elsewhere....diseased puppies....starving children....destroyed landscape from environmental issues. The varied...and vast ...impact of chronic disease remains away from "the clearing" and out of sight.
This forum is filled with God's children who take on the responsibility of caring for their loved ones....their neighbors...and each other...with the pure intent of service and love ....seeking only the reward of "giving".
I will go away now ...back to lurking...and refrain from joining your conversations at the table....for right now. If what I suspect becomes my reality....if I learn a certainty that I will share my role as a PWP with that of a care giver for an exponentially fast process... facing the scenario of watching the dear love of my life (46 years) endure ALS.....then I will return. Now I know another "family" exists next door that will offer me the same support and friendship I receive from my "family".
Thank you all for who you are, what you do, and taking the energy to share your wisdom with others....even lurkers you never see.
Keep swimming...<smile>
Harley