So today we had the care conference with my mom and I listened with baited breath when a Social Worker actually said the words "So, even if you continue to progress in physical therapy, your cognition is not in a place where it would be safe for you to live alone. You can start with Long Term Care and then at some point of you regain enough mobility go to an Assisted Living, but it is not safe for you to go to an apartment alone". Ahh, the "cognition". I was in denial about that myself until about January. It's not one of the usual dementia conditions but something is wrong and has been for a while. Kind of a relief to hear it acknowledged.
My mom did not react with too much outrage, but she had the quiet meanness, the kind she had 30 years ago and probably 60 years ago that she displays in polite company. Her family she always just ripped into, no holds bared in private. In this situation she just said " I think because of my daughter's situation with her husband she wants to have me taken care of and not think about it." I said right away that this decision was not being made by me nor was it about my husband, it's a medical decision that she needs Long Term Care. So, here we go. Good times.