Hi, how weird Karen, i just replied to your post and you had replied to mine! thanks for your comments! sounds like our dads would have got on, he also had grandchildren (from my sister). My dad never ever even talked about the disease, never cried or anything with all the indignity. Some days I cant believe any of it happened and expect it to be 3 years ago and see him walking down the road having been for a paper. grr now I'm crying!