I do think there is a difference between someone who has PLS (is that what you are dealing with vw for 20 years?), and dealing with a more rapid progression and the imminent death of your PALS.
My Chris was gone 11 months after diagnosis. So for people to ask every month or so - "oh how is Chris doing?" That was really hard as they wanted me to say - "oh as well as can be expected", or "not too bad this week or something like that".
I was racing to try and keep up with progression and injuries, and with FTD his shocking behaviour. Standing in a supermarket or other public place, there was no way to make their flippant questions an opportunity to educate. I would be hard pressed just to be getting through the day.
Since he died, I've taken every opportunity I can to educate people, as I'm no longer in the thick midst of dealing with it happening in my face.
Lixen I found a third type of people - people who thrive on the macabre and actually do want to know certain grisly details but do not care and have no intention of becoming involved.