Thanks, Katie, he did have control until a few weeks ago. You are right, I found out a couple of months ago that he had done much the same except that the cards aren't maxed, just heavily used and underpaid. It will take me a long time to get them back under control. I also had the feeling that something wasn't right with him, but until I read about FTD on this forum, I had no idea what might be going on. I talked to the neurologist last week when he had his appt. She agrees and says that it is obvious that he has already checked out. Even knowing this, helps only a little when trying to deal with him. We were having a discussion a couple of nights ago about how I wanted to be able to dress up and go out. His suggestion was that I do that and have men buy me drinks. This from a man who was always so jealous that he got upset if someone looked at me. I was furious that he would even think that I was the type of person who would do that. I threw something too. Not at him, but at the wall behind him. Just made another mess for me to have to clean up. He on the other hand, didn't see anything wrong with what he had said.
The FTD has ruined our relationship. I am no longer the loving wife, but just a caregiver whom he is afraid will leave him. I wish things were different. I do everything that needs to be done, but just not with the love that I would have used. It is so sad for me and for him. I am no longer the person that I have always thought I was. I don't think I will ever be again. Sorry for the ranting rave, but it is nice to know someone else understands. My best friend tends to think the things he does are funny.
Thanks for listening!
Janis