SeaGunny
Active member
- Joined
- Feb 15, 2023
- Messages
- 95
- Reason
- Lost a loved one
- Diagnosis
- 01/2021
- Country
- US
- State
- TX
- City
- San Antonio
Follow up.
I find I grieve for just about all those major decision points or portions of my life where I may not have survived to the age I am. I also grieve for others, particularly those who have crossed paths with my early profession, Certain songs will push me to near tears, more so now that in the past.
After a beer at the local VFW (been over 2 years since I had any alcohol) I realized that I am "damaged" far more than I could imagine. I enrolled in a Grief class. I have been to ONE session There are about 14 women in this class, and 2 other men. Some of these women are grieving a death that occurred over 10 years ago! I can understand that - just can't quite figure the emotional breakdown now of a death over 10 years ago. Sorry, we all deal with grief in various ways and our road to recovery is as varied as any road map one has even encountered.
What I did observe, is that women were more open about their grief but the other men were much more reserved. I think that goes with the territory. Women seem to have longer periods of mourning than men. This may or may not be true an I have no way of measurement of that factor other than the number of attendees and the dates of deaths of those they grieve for. As far as needing the therapy, I get the feeling I am one who needs it way less than these poor souls. Anyway, a sister of mine showed up and I can tell you I relaxed to the point where I knocked out 17 hours of sleep in an 18 hour period. My sister was counting!
I find I grieve for just about all those major decision points or portions of my life where I may not have survived to the age I am. I also grieve for others, particularly those who have crossed paths with my early profession, Certain songs will push me to near tears, more so now that in the past.
After a beer at the local VFW (been over 2 years since I had any alcohol) I realized that I am "damaged" far more than I could imagine. I enrolled in a Grief class. I have been to ONE session There are about 14 women in this class, and 2 other men. Some of these women are grieving a death that occurred over 10 years ago! I can understand that - just can't quite figure the emotional breakdown now of a death over 10 years ago. Sorry, we all deal with grief in various ways and our road to recovery is as varied as any road map one has even encountered.
What I did observe, is that women were more open about their grief but the other men were much more reserved. I think that goes with the territory. Women seem to have longer periods of mourning than men. This may or may not be true an I have no way of measurement of that factor other than the number of attendees and the dates of deaths of those they grieve for. As far as needing the therapy, I get the feeling I am one who needs it way less than these poor souls. Anyway, a sister of mine showed up and I can tell you I relaxed to the point where I knocked out 17 hours of sleep in an 18 hour period. My sister was counting!