Gelthling
Distinguished member
- Joined
- Apr 7, 2009
- Messages
- 109
- Reason
- Loved one DX
- Diagnosis
- 0/2009
- Country
- AUS
- State
- NSW
- City
- Sydney
I am in a bit of a pickle at the moment. On going to mum's speech path last week,they were talking to her about a PEG. Everytime they do, mum gets SOO! upset that they just say it has to be discussed, just think about it, then mum goes on her way and doesn't even acknowledge it was brought up. I believe mum is doing alot of " if we dont talk about it, it's not happening". Whilst in with the Speech Path and because mum was so upset, they asked if mum had someone to talk to, I told them she doesn't discuss anything really with any of us, just gets us to do everything for her. Mum wrote down she wanted to see a councellor on suggestion.
The councellor was going to her home today, and an hour before the lady was due to arrive, mum text me to cancel the appointment, as she no longer wants councelling, has had it before and it did squat (Years ago!). Mum seems to do this with any services we get to help her, she says yes, then before an appointment or the service starts she text's me she no longer wants it.
After today, even mum's case manager is at a loss as they are trying to put a Care package in for mum, but if she keeps refusing, everything will fall onto my shoulders. I had a discussion with mum on Monday about getting more services in as I am not coping with the three Kids and mums care, and now I'm worried that everything she agreed to on Monday, she will now turn around tomorrow and say no.
How do you ensure your loved one is safe and looked after properly if they don't want the help or is in that much denial they are not prepared to change their ways to improve their living - Mum is now in a walker and slowing down every day, have to use wheelchair when we go out as her foot movement in the left is nearly non existent - her swallowing is getting significantly worse so the speech path tells me, and she is still living at home on her own and has three falls in three weeks with the walker!
At a loss :-( - sorry to vent.
The councellor was going to her home today, and an hour before the lady was due to arrive, mum text me to cancel the appointment, as she no longer wants councelling, has had it before and it did squat (Years ago!). Mum seems to do this with any services we get to help her, she says yes, then before an appointment or the service starts she text's me she no longer wants it.
After today, even mum's case manager is at a loss as they are trying to put a Care package in for mum, but if she keeps refusing, everything will fall onto my shoulders. I had a discussion with mum on Monday about getting more services in as I am not coping with the three Kids and mums care, and now I'm worried that everything she agreed to on Monday, she will now turn around tomorrow and say no.
How do you ensure your loved one is safe and looked after properly if they don't want the help or is in that much denial they are not prepared to change their ways to improve their living - Mum is now in a walker and slowing down every day, have to use wheelchair when we go out as her foot movement in the left is nearly non existent - her swallowing is getting significantly worse so the speech path tells me, and she is still living at home on her own and has three falls in three weeks with the walker!
At a loss :-( - sorry to vent.
