littlered
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- Joined
- Mar 20, 2013
- Messages
- 52
- Reason
- Lost a loved one
- Diagnosis
- 06/2012
- Country
- US
- State
- NV
- City
- Las Vegas
Our close friends are fighting the same battle you are all fighting. My PALS friend is also fighting a battle with her CALS husband over nutrition and weight.
At her PCP appointment this week, she found she's lost 21 pounds in the past three months. Additionally she was told she has diabetes and PCP wants her to start on pills. She told me she'd rather the diabetes get her instead of the ALS.
CALS and their son have had a difficult time accepting the diagnosis she received over 2 1/2 years ago. The most recent example is they took her to a "nutritionist" who told them that she needed to lose the fat so he could help her rebuild muscle. Cut out the carbs and fat and go on the Paleo diet. What? PALS is very aware that the lost muscle cannot be rebuilt. This guy had them taking pills every hour to flush their system etc etc etc. All I see is her looking thinner to me every week.
Our cousin's wife passed from ALS and while we weren't in the same town to support them, the biggest advice he gave us to pass on was to stay ahead of this monster and eat, eat, eat. Unfortunately CALS is still in denial and doesn't get the "stay ahead" motto.
After reading all you so generously share, I am aware how important it is to keep the calories up and have attempted to have discussions with them regarding the importance of high calories and that high calories doesn't necessarily mean sugar. CALS is against the high calories as he's been told she'll get better with proper nutrition by idiots not familiar with ALS. CALS also wants her to try to keep walking as he has the "use it or lose it" mindset. I haven't been able to overcome that one either, but that's another story.
My husband and I have been discussing this as PALS confides in me. We are discussing if we should attempt some type of "intervention" and sit CALS down and have a conversation about PALS eating. Their son is pretty useless in providing any assistance for them, so it's basically just us who are giving them support.
So my question, should we interfere and sit the PALS and CALS down to discuss this? How would you take friends meddling in your business? We don't want to alienate them nor do we want to damage our 25+ year friendship as we plan to be there for them for the duration.
Thank you, Cindy (littlered)
At her PCP appointment this week, she found she's lost 21 pounds in the past three months. Additionally she was told she has diabetes and PCP wants her to start on pills. She told me she'd rather the diabetes get her instead of the ALS.
CALS and their son have had a difficult time accepting the diagnosis she received over 2 1/2 years ago. The most recent example is they took her to a "nutritionist" who told them that she needed to lose the fat so he could help her rebuild muscle. Cut out the carbs and fat and go on the Paleo diet. What? PALS is very aware that the lost muscle cannot be rebuilt. This guy had them taking pills every hour to flush their system etc etc etc. All I see is her looking thinner to me every week.
Our cousin's wife passed from ALS and while we weren't in the same town to support them, the biggest advice he gave us to pass on was to stay ahead of this monster and eat, eat, eat. Unfortunately CALS is still in denial and doesn't get the "stay ahead" motto.
After reading all you so generously share, I am aware how important it is to keep the calories up and have attempted to have discussions with them regarding the importance of high calories and that high calories doesn't necessarily mean sugar. CALS is against the high calories as he's been told she'll get better with proper nutrition by idiots not familiar with ALS. CALS also wants her to try to keep walking as he has the "use it or lose it" mindset. I haven't been able to overcome that one either, but that's another story.
My husband and I have been discussing this as PALS confides in me. We are discussing if we should attempt some type of "intervention" and sit CALS down and have a conversation about PALS eating. Their son is pretty useless in providing any assistance for them, so it's basically just us who are giving them support.
So my question, should we interfere and sit the PALS and CALS down to discuss this? How would you take friends meddling in your business? We don't want to alienate them nor do we want to damage our 25+ year friendship as we plan to be there for them for the duration.
Thank you, Cindy (littlered)