I'm getting scared...
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It sounds to me like you are doing an amazing job, this is not easy by any means!
I do agree, that if she gets just enough extra fluids it will only prolong things by maybe some days, but not really give her any true relief.
I'm glad you have your aunt there as well, you will be a comfort to each other, and you are sharing the load.
Keep ranting here as you need to, and we will keep supporting how we can.
I do agree, that if she gets just enough extra fluids it will only prolong things by maybe some days, but not really give her any true relief.
I'm glad you have your aunt there as well, you will be a comfort to each other, and you are sharing the load.
Keep ranting here as you need to, and we will keep supporting how we can.
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You might ask her more directly if she would like family to come now (perhaps in the context of "would you like to see...") She may be waiting for them before she feels ready to go even while she denies that she wants them to see her this way. Also, she may feel that you and/or your aunt in particular are anxious about her passing and I would reassure her that you wish her well and will ensure that others' visits are on her terms. I would say anything you want to say to her and encourage your family likewise, though whatever communication means is necessary. A one-way conversation, where she just listens, can be very comforting. You can read her e-mails, show her pictures, whatever reminds her of how she will live on through others.
The question now may be less "how do you know when" but "how do you help" her journey, which will be easier with whom/what she values at her side and what needs to be said, said. The more peace you find within yourselves, Amanda, the more she will take with her.
The question now may be less "how do you know when" but "how do you help" her journey, which will be easier with whom/what she values at her side and what needs to be said, said. The more peace you find within yourselves, Amanda, the more she will take with her.
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Amanda my heart breaks for you! I have no words or the experience to help you with this mountain you are climbing right now. Please know our thoughts and prayers are with you and yours. Get in all of the hugs you can and please enjoy the moments.
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Linda
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Amanda you are doing amazingly well, great comfort to your mum, I'm glad you have your aunt to support you. Please know we are all here with you. My thoughts are with you. Love,Anne
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