Pandora
Distinguished member
- Joined
- Apr 30, 2011
- Messages
- 130
- Reason
- Lost a loved one
- Diagnosis
- 01/2011
- Country
- US
- State
- Texas
- City
- Crowley
11 months, 16 days, 12 hours, 16 minutes ..... in to this "new life".
Where am I now in the grief process? Stranded, that's where. Am I still angry? Yes! Am I still sad? All the time. Frustration still a factor? You damn well bet! Shock and Numbness still hanging about? check. Still trying to make deals with my "higher power"? Sometimes.
They say the best way to get over a man is to get under a new one? Really? Is this an option? Any one try this way? I am guessing no. I cant even think of such.
Seems I am faking all the right replies to people. I smile when somethings funny, I say "I'm doing ok, I am making it the best I know how". Truth is... I am no longer here. The "Me" they all know left the night he passed away. I don't really know the person left, in my body, in my mind, in my soul. I kinda resemble the girl I used to be, only a little slower, less vibrant.
Do we ever really heal? Is it more that we just ;smile; keep moving, keep changing, keep on going because we have no other choice?
People have told me that you will feel when your ready to close the hurt. What if you don't "FEEL" anything. The only thing you know as truth, happens to be the "nothing" in your bones. The space they left in your life, the void that you fall into, tries to consume all that you are. And all you have is the "nothing". Can you, should you... hold onto that? I mean "Nothing" is a feeling... right?
Where am I now in the grief process? Stranded, that's where. Am I still angry? Yes! Am I still sad? All the time. Frustration still a factor? You damn well bet! Shock and Numbness still hanging about? check. Still trying to make deals with my "higher power"? Sometimes.
They say the best way to get over a man is to get under a new one? Really? Is this an option? Any one try this way? I am guessing no. I cant even think of such.
Seems I am faking all the right replies to people. I smile when somethings funny, I say "I'm doing ok, I am making it the best I know how". Truth is... I am no longer here. The "Me" they all know left the night he passed away. I don't really know the person left, in my body, in my mind, in my soul. I kinda resemble the girl I used to be, only a little slower, less vibrant.
Do we ever really heal? Is it more that we just ;smile; keep moving, keep changing, keep on going because we have no other choice?
People have told me that you will feel when your ready to close the hurt. What if you don't "FEEL" anything. The only thing you know as truth, happens to be the "nothing" in your bones. The space they left in your life, the void that you fall into, tries to consume all that you are. And all you have is the "nothing". Can you, should you... hold onto that? I mean "Nothing" is a feeling... right?