MLOx
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- Joined
- Dec 24, 2010
- Messages
- 38
- Reason
- Loved one DX
- Country
- US
- State
- WA
- City
- Seattle
My mom passed away August 10th, she had Bulbar onset, about 20 months from date of diagnosis. I'm sharing the story because I know I needed to hear stories, how does this happen, what issues come up, how to prepare. The answer is you can't prepare, you may be tired and confused, scared and relieved....that's the terrible thing --because it's gradual you have time to cry and feel sad and angry and then when it gets really bad you feel so bad you want it to end, then the end comes and you don't want it to end, and then guilt settles in followed by everything else all mixed up. My mom started getting more uncomfortable (nurse called it terminal agitation), couldn't get comfortable, different parts of her body hurting, trouble sleeping and then sleeping a lot, her lungs got filled with fluid, she went off food which decreased the fluid intake and helped her lungs. Sleeping most of the time but not really restful. Heart rate high 120's, 02 bouncing between 85 and 65, and just uncomfortable, in pain, and losing the ability to write and communicate, very weak. The nurse increased ativan and morphine, she would come out of the 'drug rest' and feel uncomfortable, nothing was working, she was anxious because she knew it was the end and was really not able to communicate as well and could only get one word written. So we would all get confused as to what she wanted. We stayed by her side, she slept as long as she was on the medication. We had about three days of this, then she went of water by choice, then the meds were put closer together in time to keep her comfortable. She passed away the next morning, her last moment- I don't think she was truly aware, but she opened her eyes, stared forward for a moment, closed her eyes and took her last breath. The end was peaceful but the days prior were so difficult and confusing. I don't know if this will help anyone but maybe it will. I love you mom.