kmb2
New member
- Joined
- Apr 25, 2016
- Messages
- 6
- Reason
- Lost a loved one
- Diagnosis
- 09/2015
- Country
- US
- State
- NY
- City
- Rochester
Hi there. I have been wandering around this site for quite a few months reading the different posts and just recently became a member. I am extremely sad to see the pain that so many individuals and families are going through in living with this disease.
I'm not sure why exactly I am posting...except that I need to feel like I am not alone. My husband was diagnosed 8 months ago. Up until that point we noticed different symptoms and he would put off going to a doctor brushing the symptoms off. However when the slurred speech became consistant, a visit to the GP was made. He was convinced that my husband was healthy. He did however refer him to a neurologist. I had been watching the symptoms of my husband for about a year and looking up possible causes of symptoms and I had a fear that ALS may be what we were facing.
When it came to the day of his visit with the neurologist I offered to go with him but he chose to go alone. He ended up there all day, went through a series of tests including the EMG and he was diagnosed that day.
Now here we are 8 months later, going to the clinic visits and he has only told some family members and some work supervisors. I have not been given permission to talk to anyone besides his approved core group which is mostly his family. I don't want to have just them to talk to because they don't need to be a part of the day in and day out of coping and I don't want to share some of those things.
I'm not comfortable sharing the details of maintaining a marriage and the things that annoyed us even before the diagnosis. Those are things that just didn't disappear that day. Now I just find myself feeling guilty for still losing patience over those things.
We also have 2 children , 9 and 14. They do not know but often make comments about my husband's physically changing body and behaviors such as napping frequently which is noticable because he was a very active man. Families of their friends, coaches and other social circles are noticing the differences and they often ask me about them, I give the lame response of "he's having some back trouble."
I understand that he is not ready to tell people but this is not a disease that can be hidden. I don't know how long he expects to cope with such limited support and so much added stress. I watch daily as he is unable to do things he could do the day before and it's heartbreaking. I'm not looking for answers, I'm not depressed but I am sad and I guess I just need to get some of this off of my mind. Thanks for listening.
I'm not sure why exactly I am posting...except that I need to feel like I am not alone. My husband was diagnosed 8 months ago. Up until that point we noticed different symptoms and he would put off going to a doctor brushing the symptoms off. However when the slurred speech became consistant, a visit to the GP was made. He was convinced that my husband was healthy. He did however refer him to a neurologist. I had been watching the symptoms of my husband for about a year and looking up possible causes of symptoms and I had a fear that ALS may be what we were facing.
When it came to the day of his visit with the neurologist I offered to go with him but he chose to go alone. He ended up there all day, went through a series of tests including the EMG and he was diagnosed that day.
Now here we are 8 months later, going to the clinic visits and he has only told some family members and some work supervisors. I have not been given permission to talk to anyone besides his approved core group which is mostly his family. I don't want to have just them to talk to because they don't need to be a part of the day in and day out of coping and I don't want to share some of those things.
I'm not comfortable sharing the details of maintaining a marriage and the things that annoyed us even before the diagnosis. Those are things that just didn't disappear that day. Now I just find myself feeling guilty for still losing patience over those things.
We also have 2 children , 9 and 14. They do not know but often make comments about my husband's physically changing body and behaviors such as napping frequently which is noticable because he was a very active man. Families of their friends, coaches and other social circles are noticing the differences and they often ask me about them, I give the lame response of "he's having some back trouble."
I understand that he is not ready to tell people but this is not a disease that can be hidden. I don't know how long he expects to cope with such limited support and so much added stress. I watch daily as he is unable to do things he could do the day before and it's heartbreaking. I'm not looking for answers, I'm not depressed but I am sad and I guess I just need to get some of this off of my mind. Thanks for listening.
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