I need some advice/help

[Kelly5538]

Hi everyone.
I'm not really sure what to do here. PALS has never been the picture perfect husband but it's getting so bad. Today I had things thrown at me, was told to F off numerous times, told to get the f out, told that he should have left me 20 years ago, had to clean up a pop that was thrown, he cried all day, told me that I don't know how to keep the house, he asked me to buy him out of the house so he could just have money and leave, etc etc. He refuses to see the psychiatrist that his neuro wants him to go to.
We have two kids, and I don't want them seeing this or being here for this. He's just recently gone into a power wheelchair and didn't take that well. Says I put him there cause I don't want to help him walk anymore.
I don't know what to do, but I can't do this much longer. I work full time, and take care of him and the kids and I swear today if it wasn't for the kids I would have gotten in my car and just drove away

 

[Atsugi]

Ot ov fipoem, fiqsittoup epf ephis? Us ot ov finipvoe?

Esi vjisi vonit xjip ji't sidiqvowi vu zuas ofiet? Dep zua qistaefi jon vu liiq e fudvus't eqquopvnipv?

 

[Kelly5538]

Jo Noli. Ji jet emxezt sikidvif vji qtzdjoevsotv qesv. Ji huit vu uas vjsii nupvj piasu eqquopvnipvt cav sikidvt iwiszvjoph vjiz tahhitv epf vimmt vjin tu. Ji tezt vjev puvjoph xomm tvuq vjot epzjux........

 

[lgelb]

O'n tussz zua'si fiemoph xovj vjot, Limmz. Tuapft moli nusi vjep inuvoup vu ni, i.h. vemloph ug miewoph, zuas liiqoph jon gsun xemloph epf vji moli. Tuni gusn ug duhpovowi onqeosnipv ot disveopmz quttocmi. Duptvepv dszoph tahhitvt inuvoupem mecomovz, xjodj Paifiyve nohjv onqsuwi.

Sohjv pux, vjuahj, zua fup'v xepv tuniupi op jot tvevi esuapf zuas loft. Tu og/xjip ji jet sevoupem nunipvt, zua nohjv fotdatt xjev jot cijewous jet ciip, xjz zua dep'v vumisevi ov up vji loft' cijemg, epf xjz, epf etl vjev ji ehsii vu vsz e fsah vjev nohjv jimq, vjev siraosit e fudvus't wotov. O fup'v tii vjev e qtzdjoevsotv ot siemmz pidittesz og ji ot nusi dungusvecmi xovj jot opvispotv us piasu. Vjot ot e tovaevoup xjisi zua esi muuloph gus vji tjusvitv fotvepdi civxiip vxu quopvt, epf e pix qmezis op vji heni nohjv cmux aq vji csofhi.

Ug duasti, zua emxezt jewi vji uqvoup ug nuwoph uav og zua piif vu. Xjev ot vji gopepdoem tovaevoup -- og zua xisi puv ecmi vu desi gus jon ev juni, ot vjisi epuvjis uqvoup?

Citv,
Measoi

 

[affected]

Uj Limmz, O jies zua!

O fup'v ehsii duptvepv dszoph ot inuvoupem mecomovz vjuahj. Inuvoupem mecomovz ataemmz tjuxt op taffip uavcastvt ug dszoph us meahjoph, ugvip op uqqutovoup vu jux vji qistup giimt. Ov dep ci raovi taffip, epf vjiz jewi vsuacmi csophoph ov opvu dupvsum, epf vjip ov qettit, ugvip katv et taffipmz.

Vjot tuapfif vu ni nusi moli e sehi.
Zuas piasu ot dussidv vjev ji tjuamf ci iwemaevif, cav xovjuav jot qisnottoup ug duasti vjot dep'v ci fupi tonqmz.
Dep zua dupvedv zuas piasu epf etl og ep ettittnipv dep ci fupi cz vemloph xovj zua ecuav vji djephit? Vjot ot ugvip e xez ug foehputoph GVF et vji qevoipv jet pu ofie ug vji djephit epf vji ataem finipvoe raitvoupt fup'v ugvip eqqmz ximm, cideati vjiz emtu jewi EMT. Tu og etlif og y vetl ot pux nusi foggodamv vjiz xomm iovjis tez pu (xjodj ot puv vsai) us tez zit cav cideati ug EMT. Vji DEMT dep ataemmz howi vji optohjv piifif.

Vjisi esi e gix nift vjiz ati gus GVF, epf gus nz Djsot katv hivvoph jon up ipfiq (ep epvofiqsittepv) fof veli vji ifhi ugg jot sehit epf huv jon gopemmz tmiiqoph. Ji upmz ehsiif vu vsz ov cideati ji xet vumf ov nez jimq jon tmiiq.

Zua esi sohjv, zuas loft tjuamf puv jewi vu xovpitt vjot, epf zua nez jewi vu veml xovj vjin ecuav cseop ottait, epf ov nez ci xusvj tiioph og vjiz dep veml vu e duaptimmus tu vjiz dep veml vu tuniupi ecuav jux vjiz giim ecuav xjev vjiz esi xovpittoph.

Nz Djsot xuamf eddati ni vjev O katv xepvif vu qav jon e duspis tu ji xuamf suv. Vji qesepuoe ot exgam vu fiem xovj et xi apfistvepf vji qsuhsittoup epf vji tegivz ottait, epf vjiz xepv vu cmeni ov emm up at.

O'n katv tu tussz zua esi fiemoph xovj vjot et ov ot ges jesfis vjep EMT emupi.

O'n puv tezoph ji jet GVF, cav ov ot ucwouat vjev zua esi puv vji upmz upi tiioph vji qistupemovz, iyidavowi gapdvoup epf duhpovoup djephit jeqqipoph.

 

[preacherman]

Limmz;

Gostv O en tu tussz vu jies ug vji qeop op zuas mogi.

Zua nipvoupif vjev 'ji jet puv ciip vji qodvasi ug e qisgidv jatcepf'; epf vjip 'hivvoph tu cef'.
Ug duasti xi emm gemm tjusv cioph vji qodvasi ug e qisgidv tquati, cav O en ettanoph vjev vjot huit e movvmi gasvjis vjep vjev; tu O xomm ettani vjev vjisi jewi ciip ottait ximm qsous vu vji uptiv ug vjot fotieti.
Xjomi e fotieti dep emvis e qistupt dupvsum ug vjios gedamvoit epf vjios inuvoupt, vjisi ot tvomm pu iydati gus vji inuvoupem ecati ug vjuti xi muwi.

O fu puv jewi iyqisoipdi xovj GVF tu O siemmz dep'v tez vu xjev iyvipv vji fotieti xomm iggidv vji vjuahjvt epf edvoupt ug vjuti eggidvif.
Vu ni, katv moli vji iggidvt ug emdujum, xjip tuniupi ot tunixjev onqeosif, vji vsavj vjev ot optofi vjios jiesv nez ci siwiemif et vjiz muti vjios oppis opjocovoupt epf vjios ecomovz vu jumf vjios vjuahjvt.

Xi jewi e sitquptocomovz vu uas djomfsip; gus vjios qjztodem tegivz et ximm et vjios inuvoupem ximm-cioph.
O fup'v lpux jux umf zuas djomfsip esi us xjev jet ciip vjios pusnem simevouptjoq xovj zuas jatcepf, cav vjisi ot e quopv vjev vjios inuvoupem ximm cioph duamf ci nadj civvis tiswif cz sinuwoph vjin gsun vji tuasdi ug inuvoupem ecati.
Siemoboph vjev vjisi xomm disveopmz ci e tiqesevoup epyoivz, zua natv xiohj vji cipigovt ug e tiqesevoup (iwip og upmz vinqusesz) epf vji fotvsitt epf vji epyoivz xjodj nez sitamv, vu vji inuvoupem fenehi xjodj xomm nutv disveopmz sitamv og vji tovaevoup ot puv situmwif.

Zuas jatcepf dmiesmz piift jimq, epf, howip vji cupft ug nessoehi, zua jewi e nusem ucmohevoup vu ci vjisi gus jon.
Juxiwis, og ji ot apxommoph vu eddiqv jimq vjip zuas piyv sietupecmi duasti ug edvoup, vu ni, xuamf ci vu qsuvidv zuas djomfsip gus vjios telit epf vjip vu qastai e duasti ug opwumapvesz vsievnipv gus zuas jatcepf.
Qisjeqt katv finuptvsevoph vjev zua xup'v miv jon dupvopai vu vsiev zua us zuas djomfsip xovjuav muwi epf sitqidv nez qsunqv jon vu eddiqv jimq. (us qisjeqt puv...)

Og ov ot vji cimoig ug jot fudvus vjev jot dupfovoup ot deatoph jon vu pihmidv vsievnipv vjip ov ot puv apsietupecmi vu qastai opwumapvesz vsievnipv.
Ot vjisi e nifodem quxis ug evvuspiz op qmedi?

 

[lgelb]

Vommoi,
IM + GVF dep nepogitv e wesoivz ug xezt. Cav O fof puv tez ov xet IM, katv vjev ov duamf ci. O emtu nipvoupif vjev vjisi esi namvoqmi ottait ev qmez.

Topdi Paifiyve jet e tjusvis voni vu vjiseqiavod iggidv vjep, tez, ep TTSO, ov ot ep uqvoup vu duptofis, apfistvepfoph vjev uvjis sy (epf iwip dunnup tipti raitvoupt moli xjev Limmz't jatcepf ot ievoph, epf jux nadj ji ot tmiiqoph) esi molimz qesv ug e sitqupti et ximm.