I will add this- It depends on the maturity of your 10 year old as to how and what to tell. Our son is 9 and his dad was diagnosed when he was 6. So, we have given him info a bit at a time and he has asked his own questions and we have given him honest answers. The 13 year old will be an entirely different matter, as Kay Marie has spoken about.
I would caution about painting a picture like the neuro's do: "3-5 years." I told my son that only God knows when each of us are going to die and we have to hope all the research doctors will find a "medicine" to treat ALS.
It has been a difficult road and I would agree that it is a must to get the school administration/counselor involved and anyone else that they look up to that could be of help in their time of need. My son doesn't talk much about his daddy's illness anymore to me, but he does talk about it at school.
I just bought a book called
What to Do When You're Scared & Worried by James J Crist, PhD. While it doesn't have anything to do with ALS, it does have some excellent tips for kids to help deal with what is bothering them, such as keeping a journal and making a list of worries, etc... Our son has started a journal and I believe it has been helpful for him to write down his feelings.
There is also a workbook written by a counselor, but I haven't wanted to fork over the money for it. It may be a helpful tool for your kids-
"request a copy of
Our ALS Family Playbook by contacting its author, Sharon Rugg, LCSW, at
[email protected] or (770) 928-1027."
From the ALS Assoc of GA. Welcome - The ALS Association
Cate, I'm very sorry you even have to ask this question! But, we DO so understand what you are going through! Good luck to you and your family. Hang in there! We are here if you need to talk!