Poet Chistopher Robin
Distinguished member
- Joined
- Mar 17, 2012
- Messages
- 147
- Reason
- PALS
- Diagnosis
- 06/2011
- Country
- UK
- State
- Tyne and Wear
- City
- Newcastle upon Tyne
I am terminally ill and dying I have COPD meaning my lungs are gone, also MND motor neurone disease which is killing me daily plus, a small cancer growth in my left back plus a right front hernia plus a broken right foot
After celebrating 35 years of marriage two weeks ago my wife has thrown me out of the home because she cannot cope with me alone the pressure is so great despite our ongoing pleas too social workers for help regarding additional care
I have never seen a social worker since this despite my persistent request to see the director or deputy in person; such is the deliberate ignorance and blatant arrogance of social services
We had already complained to the director of social services about the two members of his staff our complaint mainly fuelled by my wife. The complaint was in reference to me being ignored repeatedly and the social worker persistently letting us down as they had ignored my desperate plea for help, so much so that the senior actually blocked my emails, fully aware it was the only way I could converse which is beyond all human rights
Yet all this was over is that my wife came in from a late shift and found the new recliner chair and the wheel chair both in the living room, which she got very angry about. Which yet again reflects the total and absolute lack of support offered us
She assumes I can walk about the home with my broken right foot that she actually broke last October trying to force me to sit down; sadly the mnd stops this healing, as also sadly in my wife’s opinion there is no room in the home for my disability.
My wife has never physically assaulted me and I want that made very clear verbally yes
As for the social workers endlessly telephoning my perfectly verbally active wife and ignoring her very ill dying husband is beyond every bit of belief grasp and understanding. This is possibly because they neither have the time or patience to hear me or they view me as having a mental deficiency which is totally incorrect, as shown by the way both have treated me, or because they believe her when she persists in saying to one and all that I abuse her which literally any doctor will relay is literally physically as verbally impossible, she says this as her pleas for help which is again unheard as unheeded by all
Both social workers are absolutely determined to see me go into care which I absolutely refuse point blank to do, be that council or private run. They are deliberately putting meetings off till as late as they can in the hope I will lose the power to communicate to as such then forcibly place me into care
I refuse under the grounds that I will be left to rot and die lonely and alone and would die of neglect
Two nights of the trot without any visitors got me thinking this is what happened to my poor wife left on her own to struggle and cope alone without any support from a single sole at all
And it will happen to me again once I am left on my own if placed into care left to be neglected abused and die very painfully lonely and so alone unable to speak up for myself
This is why my wife was good for me because despite her moods she was always there for me regardless, but social services abused her being always there for me and refused us any extra care point blank, other than three separate hours daily which is no good to any one
If there was to be any abuse I would rather it were from someone I knew and loved rather than a careless and complete total reckless stranger in a care home I did not want to be in
I know at the same time that my family each and all have their own lives to live, and that I would probably be no different hence it’s a lot to bear for me and is one of the main reasons I refuse point blank to be put into any form or kind of care home be that private or council run, to be neglected and abused by staff and unable to speak up for myself
As for the meeting to do with the care package it was held about 8 weeks back and supposed to be reviewed two weeks later
It is extremely annoying to find that because my wife threw me out the social workers agree I can have everything social services have, as they have no lawful right to interfere in my marriage either, which I object to very strongly and any person or department will find themselves in a court of law as national press and medla
After celebrating 35 years of marriage two weeks ago my wife has thrown me out of the home because she cannot cope with me alone the pressure is so great despite our ongoing pleas too social workers for help regarding additional care
I have never seen a social worker since this despite my persistent request to see the director or deputy in person; such is the deliberate ignorance and blatant arrogance of social services
We had already complained to the director of social services about the two members of his staff our complaint mainly fuelled by my wife. The complaint was in reference to me being ignored repeatedly and the social worker persistently letting us down as they had ignored my desperate plea for help, so much so that the senior actually blocked my emails, fully aware it was the only way I could converse which is beyond all human rights
Yet all this was over is that my wife came in from a late shift and found the new recliner chair and the wheel chair both in the living room, which she got very angry about. Which yet again reflects the total and absolute lack of support offered us
She assumes I can walk about the home with my broken right foot that she actually broke last October trying to force me to sit down; sadly the mnd stops this healing, as also sadly in my wife’s opinion there is no room in the home for my disability.
My wife has never physically assaulted me and I want that made very clear verbally yes
As for the social workers endlessly telephoning my perfectly verbally active wife and ignoring her very ill dying husband is beyond every bit of belief grasp and understanding. This is possibly because they neither have the time or patience to hear me or they view me as having a mental deficiency which is totally incorrect, as shown by the way both have treated me, or because they believe her when she persists in saying to one and all that I abuse her which literally any doctor will relay is literally physically as verbally impossible, she says this as her pleas for help which is again unheard as unheeded by all
Both social workers are absolutely determined to see me go into care which I absolutely refuse point blank to do, be that council or private run. They are deliberately putting meetings off till as late as they can in the hope I will lose the power to communicate to as such then forcibly place me into care
I refuse under the grounds that I will be left to rot and die lonely and alone and would die of neglect
Two nights of the trot without any visitors got me thinking this is what happened to my poor wife left on her own to struggle and cope alone without any support from a single sole at all
And it will happen to me again once I am left on my own if placed into care left to be neglected abused and die very painfully lonely and so alone unable to speak up for myself
This is why my wife was good for me because despite her moods she was always there for me regardless, but social services abused her being always there for me and refused us any extra care point blank, other than three separate hours daily which is no good to any one
If there was to be any abuse I would rather it were from someone I knew and loved rather than a careless and complete total reckless stranger in a care home I did not want to be in
I know at the same time that my family each and all have their own lives to live, and that I would probably be no different hence it’s a lot to bear for me and is one of the main reasons I refuse point blank to be put into any form or kind of care home be that private or council run, to be neglected and abused by staff and unable to speak up for myself
As for the meeting to do with the care package it was held about 8 weeks back and supposed to be reviewed two weeks later
It is extremely annoying to find that because my wife threw me out the social workers agree I can have everything social services have, as they have no lawful right to interfere in my marriage either, which I object to very strongly and any person or department will find themselves in a court of law as national press and medla