Oh so so sorry that happened to you dear heart, and with everything going on in your life right now what happened just stinks! Which cruise line was it? Holland? Just curious. I can tell you that the older ships are not as big in the rooms as the others, and are not as updated. I have booked a lot of trips for people here who have disabilities, and wow I was so shocked at the lack of rooms to accommodate people with disabilities AND the difficulties and higher prices some people had to pay to get the exact room I wanted for the PALS and families. The cruise lines are a "get em in and get em out" business. I know your email to them required a response, but I would bet that because you booked it probably direct with them with no hope or future thoughts of cruising with them again, they did a typical response back and then the letter got shoved away in some electronic file somewhere. Booking through a travel agent, a good agent who cares would have had more impact because if someone screwed over one of my clients...well, it will cost them a lot in my future bookings which are more than say just a family who travels every other year or so. These ships are not owned by the USA for a reason and they can get away with some pretty horrible things for that fact alone. Not all cruise lines are alike as well, and I have my own favorites and ones I would NEVER book for anyone. At this point though, just try and remember the peaceful moments you had that were not over shadowed by the cruise lines mistakes. ONLY focus on those moments hun. You have so much on your plate, and you need to just "trash" the bad memories, and hang on to the good ones. And in the future, when things get especially rough, go back to that memory, where you found that peace and beauty in the day. THOSE memories will help you to get through . I know from personal experience.
Hang in there, try and focus on the good, and forget the bad when there is nothing you can do about it sweets.
Hugs, Kari