poppies
Distinguished member
- Joined
- Apr 2, 2013
- Messages
- 233
- Reason
- Lost a loved one
- Diagnosis
- 02/2013
- Country
- SA
- State
- Kwazulu Natal
- City
- Durban
Hi everyone, I didn't want to hi-jack anyone else's post so decided to start a new one. I just need someone to talk to about this who understands, so thanks for being there all of you As I have mentioned in other posts I am my husband's only caregiver. He refuses to allow anyone else do anything for him - ever. Which means if I have to go out he cannot eat, drink or go to the toilet. It is incredibly stressful because I am always rushing and worrying when I am not home. I usually only go out to lift kids and to buy groceries but on the weekend I had to run errands - get meds, and some warm clothes for my husband as the weather gets colder here. It took longer than usual and he has been angry with me ever since. Refused to eat or drink when I got home, both days. Refuses to eat food that is not freshly prepared, even soup prepared the day before is not acceptable. I will offer three different meals and he will not want any of them but will then complain that supper is too late. He refuses visitors except his mother who comes once a week for an hour and a half. I have to make her coffee and entertain her as he struggles to speak and will not even try in front of her. This weekend I asked if my mother could visit, for the company and she is such a help around the house. He got angry and upset because he doesn't want her (or anyone) here. When she was here he was very difficult and sullen. It was so exhausting (not to mention embarrassing). So the short of it is I have spent the past few days doing nothing but my very best for him, but it is not good enough. I adore him and will do anything for him. I just wish I could have a break. I am so exhausted. How is it possible though if he won't allow anyone else to do anything for him? I feel terrible about it because after all he is going through how can I make things worse by forcing him to accept help from someone else so I can have a break? It seems so selfish of me. Boy, I wish I had the answers. Oops! I have gone on way too long. Time to get hubby up. Thanks for being there all of you. Your posts always make me feel better