Today, 6/30 is exactly two years since Brian’s diagnosis. Exactly. I knew it was coming, he was not as sure but come it did. After the diagnosis and some clinic stuff we went to lunch and I went and got my nails done and told our manicurist. There were no tears that day, only some questions. I think we had both been through a big emotional wringer in the diagnostic process. The final word was actually easier. The next day, July 1st was my birthday and we met friends at a restaurant and ended up telling them too.
Fast forward two years, I met with a group of friends today at a restaurant. I wore the same dress I wore the day Brian was diagnosed. It’s an old dress, has some wear and tear. Wore it on a catamaran in Hawaii four years ago. It was a nice brunch, glad I went. Good to see people. At the end of today, I will Bag this dress up and take it to the trash outside. I don’t want to see it again, but glad I wore it today.
I think the whole thing is my “screw you “ to this disease. You can’t break me. I’ll wear the dress, meet friends, heck tonight I’ll make a nice dinner Salad for myself after I purée his food. I’ll make myself a nice drink. Maybe in the months to come I’ll lose a little weight. Maybe in stolen moments I’ll work on my writing. Maybe I can’t fight you, maybe there is not one thing I can do about the theft of the love of my life and the center of my soul that is Brian. Yet you can’t break me.
This will never be okay, this will take Brian and has already changed me in ways I am sure I have yet to realize. Brian has had as he says “a good run”.ALS can’t change that, and it can’t break me.