LauraW
Distinguished member
- Joined
- Sep 27, 2008
- Messages
- 421
- Reason
- CALS
- Diagnosis
- 09/2008
- Country
- US
- State
- New York
- City
- Fishkill
We finally got to get away for 3 days. We had a family member who is a nurse's tech and has sat with Mom when she first came home a few days a week for a couple of hours each day. She knows the routine. She has suctioned, was trained by our resp therapist, has fed Mom. I tried to make it as easy as possible. Dad even helped at bedtime. I left all of her food, labeled, blended already. All she had to do was pour it in the tube. Well, that was a disaster...she forgot to open the tube ( a number of times) and got food all over her and Mom, which of course means that Mom got very little in her stomach. I left her a schedule...had all the meds crushed in cups ready to add water. Meds are not supposed to be given with food. Mom said she gave her meds at the same time as her meals....(what happened to following the schedule). But the worst thing that happened was she did not hear Mom ringing her bell in the middle of the night....2 nights...Mom ended up pulling the suction machines (on a cart with wheels) close to her, suctioned herself...all this time the vent was beeping and Alli still did not hear. Mom tried to get to her wheelchair but could not because Alli put the bed rail all the way up (which was probably a good thing since she would not have heard Mom if she fell). Mom finally threw her bell into the hallway against the wall....so much for weakness....and it smashed to pieces...that woke her up. This was because she had to go to the bathroom. Mom told me all of this after Alli left and I paid her. Oh and she is now smoking, which I did not know, and although she did not smoke in the house she would go out for ciggs and not be able to hear Mom if she needed her. As she left, Alli said to me..."WOW, you are a saint for doing this. I have to give you a lot of credit." I just cried when Mom told me all of this. No more get aways for us.
Hard to remember what a great time we had and how healing the ocean is.
Hard to remember what a great time we had and how healing the ocean is.