lisaann1170
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- Joined
- Jun 9, 2009
- Messages
- 106
- Reason
- Loved one DX
- Country
- US
- State
- WI
- City
- Milwaukee
As the one and only child, I'm trying to help my parents decide where to live.
They just accepted an offer on their house (yeah!) so they'll no longer have to deal with stairs. But, now they need to decide where to move to.
The live in a small town 3 hours from me. I grew up there and they've lived there forever, so it's emotionally difficult for them to leave. The challenge is that I'm the only child and while I'm VERY willing to do all I can to help, I can't move back to my hometown where they live. I have a job, husband, four-year-old, and am adopting an infant within the next year.
I'd LOVE to have my parents move by me, but there are challenges with that move. (1) Purchasing a condo or renting is about 30% more expensive here. That's the biggest problem. (2) They're comfortable and happy in their hometown and it's sad to see this disease uproot them. (3) They've already found the perfect condo to purchase in their hometown. It will easily accommodate a wheelchair, they love the location, and it's a fabulous price.
The benefits of moving from their hometown to the city where I live are plentiful, but "practical." (1) There's a certified ALS clinic here, a VA hospital, and a local ALS branch with an equipment "loan closet." Huge, huge, huge plus. (2) I'd be nearby, so I can help them and I think seeing their grandkids would be therapeutic. (3) Mom has disability issues herself (arthritis and poor leg circulation) and I see her struggling simply pushing Dad's manual wheelchair. I fear she'll eventually need medical help herself.
Can one person take care of an ALS patient alone? My mom would practically be on her own in their hometown if they buy the condo they want. Both of my parents are in their mid- to late-60's and although they have retired siblings nearby, they won't be able to provide the care I'm able and willing to. On the other hand, my husband and MIL are also willing to chip in here. I married well.
I'm not sure what I'm asking, but I guess I'm wondering what kind of care I can expect my father to need. I realize each situation is different and this is a challenging question.
I think my secondary question is how can I convince my parents to move here or am I simply being too pushy?!?! I want them to be happy where they live and I know they'll love the condo they found in their hometown. However, they'll be on their own most of the time.
From a selfish point of view, I really, really want them near me so I can spend as much time with them as I can. And, I want the same for my son and future daughter.
Sorry this is so long. They want to make an offer on the hometown condo in the next day or two, and I'm working hard to curtail their decision!
They just accepted an offer on their house (yeah!) so they'll no longer have to deal with stairs. But, now they need to decide where to move to.
The live in a small town 3 hours from me. I grew up there and they've lived there forever, so it's emotionally difficult for them to leave. The challenge is that I'm the only child and while I'm VERY willing to do all I can to help, I can't move back to my hometown where they live. I have a job, husband, four-year-old, and am adopting an infant within the next year.
I'd LOVE to have my parents move by me, but there are challenges with that move. (1) Purchasing a condo or renting is about 30% more expensive here. That's the biggest problem. (2) They're comfortable and happy in their hometown and it's sad to see this disease uproot them. (3) They've already found the perfect condo to purchase in their hometown. It will easily accommodate a wheelchair, they love the location, and it's a fabulous price.
The benefits of moving from their hometown to the city where I live are plentiful, but "practical." (1) There's a certified ALS clinic here, a VA hospital, and a local ALS branch with an equipment "loan closet." Huge, huge, huge plus. (2) I'd be nearby, so I can help them and I think seeing their grandkids would be therapeutic. (3) Mom has disability issues herself (arthritis and poor leg circulation) and I see her struggling simply pushing Dad's manual wheelchair. I fear she'll eventually need medical help herself.
Can one person take care of an ALS patient alone? My mom would practically be on her own in their hometown if they buy the condo they want. Both of my parents are in their mid- to late-60's and although they have retired siblings nearby, they won't be able to provide the care I'm able and willing to. On the other hand, my husband and MIL are also willing to chip in here. I married well.
I'm not sure what I'm asking, but I guess I'm wondering what kind of care I can expect my father to need. I realize each situation is different and this is a challenging question.
I think my secondary question is how can I convince my parents to move here or am I simply being too pushy?!?! I want them to be happy where they live and I know they'll love the condo they found in their hometown. However, they'll be on their own most of the time.
From a selfish point of view, I really, really want them near me so I can spend as much time with them as I can. And, I want the same for my son and future daughter.
Sorry this is so long. They want to make an offer on the hometown condo in the next day or two, and I'm working hard to curtail their decision!