Thanks so much, you guys, for your sweet words of encouragement and ideas. Well, I DO have a bloody lift. The thing is, we changed from the sit to stand type lift to the hoyer lift with the two slings - one for toileting and one full body. I wanted to try the full body one with Ron still in bed but I guess I didn't position it right or couldn't get Ron up properly even tho it was hooked on correctly (the therapist showed me how to do this when they delivered the lift last week). So much positioning, Ron got weaker and weaker, I was getting more and more discouraged. We took the full body one off and put the smaller sling on and it worked much better but still trouble putting him on the wheelchair, then the popup couch, he was so weak at that point and I needed to do this on my own since I knew I'd be alone the next day but our friends kept trying to help and we were getting frustrated - Ron was barking to move him this way and that way but he meant another way (he's like that) so I just totally broke down and I think I couldn't stop crying for about an hour off and on. Our friends left around 11-ish a.m. and Ron and I fell asleep - he in his popup chair and me on the couch. I slept for about 2 hrs and Ron, about 3 hours then we had lunch, watched TV and vegged, had a small supper, Ron fell asleep on his popup chair around 7 and I fell asleep on the couch around 9 - woke up around 10:30 and I managed (quite easily since both of us were not tired at this point) to get him on the commode and then to bed, both times using the smaller sling. I feel more rested this morning but all night sleeping, I kept getting these Charlie horses in my calves OWWWW.... We WILL be getting home care help for 5 days now instead of the three we were getting (4 hours a day) and after two girls come back from sick leave, we will be getting care 7 days a week (again for 4 hours per day from 9 a.m. to 1 p.m. as mornings are the busiest). phew...
Max, Steph, Tillie, Kim and Laurie - you are all such sweethearts and I am so very happy to have 'met' you here - much love and huggs
~ Heather ~
xoxoxoxoxo
It took 2 hours this morning to get hubby into wheelchair, he's getting weak and so am I. We have had our respite service Mon Wed and Fri and help the rest of the week. I injured my hip and couldn't walk. Got an injection of cortisone after doctor told me I had bursitis of the hip. Better now. But friends are going today and I tried to help Ron this morning and couldn't do it without their help. No one to help tomorrow. I don't know what I'm going to do. I can't stop crying. Friends are still here and trying to console me - I had to take off to get on computer downstairs just to be away. Ron keeps asking me to talk - I can't - he can't understand why... OMG OMG OMG I just want to DIE...go away...whatever...
