Sadiemae, I am so sorry that they are thinking of taking away benefits. As frustrated as I get with the VA, they are one of our greatest blessings. I have no idea what we would do without them. Even before the service connection they provided equipment, medicines (sometimes with copays, sometimes without), etc which was a huge help. However the 13 years between him being able to work and them actually declaring him service connected were absolutely horrible, especially after I had to quit work. I can't imagine what it would be like if we thought they might take away his compensation.
One of the things I don't understand is how they differentiate. Like saying caregivers of veterans post 9/11 get caregiver pay, but no other era does. I have the utmost respect and thankfulness for those servicemen, veterans and their families, but it almost seems like they are saying that what the rest of the veterans did is not as important, and their care isn't as important.
As for your husband, he was in the military for 90 days, so he was just as exposed to whatever as anyone else who was in for 90 days. I am so sorry you have this to worry about.