Chase_Corin
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- Nov 24, 2010
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- Loved one DX
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- 11/2010
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- On
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- Perth, Ontario
My father is dead set against having somone help him shower and get dressed. The problem is, my mother can't do it anymore.
Mom was recently diagnosed with Spinal Stenosis which is basically the lack of disks in the spine and the narrowing of the spinal canal. She has to watch how much she tries to do because she had injured her back in the past. They are talking about her needing surgery.
That is when we suggested that she get help for dad. My father is still able to walk and talk and do most things but he is shakey and his muscles are deteriorating. He is insistant that we don't get somone tl help with showers and the like because he would find it embarassing. He also thinks my mom is still capable, what he dosn't realise is what it takes out of my mom. By the time she helps him shower and get dressed she is in so much pain she can do little else all day.
I tried to explain it to dad as a fact. That eventually he will need the assistance anyhow and right now at least he can communicate to the careworker his wishes rather than in the future not being able to interact at all.
It is hard for him to accept because he is a proud man, he has always been very active and this disease has taken a lot of things from him. His dignity is one of the only things he has left.
Does anyone have any suggestions as to how I might broach this subject successfully with my parents? I would appreciate anything. I have already voilunteered to help dad shower but the thought of me seeing him naked is even more disturbing to my father, and my brother is not available to help.
Thanks
Mom was recently diagnosed with Spinal Stenosis which is basically the lack of disks in the spine and the narrowing of the spinal canal. She has to watch how much she tries to do because she had injured her back in the past. They are talking about her needing surgery.
That is when we suggested that she get help for dad. My father is still able to walk and talk and do most things but he is shakey and his muscles are deteriorating. He is insistant that we don't get somone tl help with showers and the like because he would find it embarassing. He also thinks my mom is still capable, what he dosn't realise is what it takes out of my mom. By the time she helps him shower and get dressed she is in so much pain she can do little else all day.
I tried to explain it to dad as a fact. That eventually he will need the assistance anyhow and right now at least he can communicate to the careworker his wishes rather than in the future not being able to interact at all.
It is hard for him to accept because he is a proud man, he has always been very active and this disease has taken a lot of things from him. His dignity is one of the only things he has left.
Does anyone have any suggestions as to how I might broach this subject successfully with my parents? I would appreciate anything. I have already voilunteered to help dad shower but the thought of me seeing him naked is even more disturbing to my father, and my brother is not available to help.
Thanks