VictoriaBlues
New member
- Joined
- Apr 16, 2010
- Messages
- 2
- Reason
- CALS
- Diagnosis
- 10/2009
- Country
- UK
- State
- UK
- City
- London
I am an only child by my mother, and she was totally devoted to me all her life (I am 31 now). In the past two years she lost both her parents, developed problems walking a year ago and was finally diagnosed with ALS after a broken foot and hip (replaced) in October. Her only other close relative was her sister, and she had a brain haemorrage a couple of days before mum was due to move to a nursing home close to her (I didn't want her to go to a nursing home). Mum's flat isn't practical at all for someone who can't walk.
The silver lining was that my father had an adapted apartment built for her in his house in January. She has a full time carer for the practical stuff but I am her primary caregiver. She is not in a good way, she can't walk at all or lift her arms and now her hands are starting to go. Whenever there's a change in her condition things are very heavy. She just cries all the time whenever I see her and recently she has started behaving strangely - her memory seems to be impaired, she attacks me with little reason and says off things. I feel like I have been carrying her for the past year and that I am getting worn out, however I've just started getting some time to myself, during which I worry about her, miss her and feel guilty. I split with my boyfriend a couple of weeks ago - our relationship had become all about mum's illness. I'd love to know whether there's anyone else out there in my position - only child to a single mum, and how they cope with this.
Thanks for reading this
The silver lining was that my father had an adapted apartment built for her in his house in January. She has a full time carer for the practical stuff but I am her primary caregiver. She is not in a good way, she can't walk at all or lift her arms and now her hands are starting to go. Whenever there's a change in her condition things are very heavy. She just cries all the time whenever I see her and recently she has started behaving strangely - her memory seems to be impaired, she attacks me with little reason and says off things. I feel like I have been carrying her for the past year and that I am getting worn out, however I've just started getting some time to myself, during which I worry about her, miss her and feel guilty. I split with my boyfriend a couple of weeks ago - our relationship had become all about mum's illness. I'd love to know whether there's anyone else out there in my position - only child to a single mum, and how they cope with this.
Thanks for reading this