People believe that everything happens for a reason when they haven't been through something like this.
2 from me:
Everything happens for a reason - that's why I met Chris, so that I could look after him. YUP I got that more than once!
A salesman (S) phoned on my mobile more than 6 months after Chris died.
S - "May I speak to Chris?"
"Oh, not just now, may I take a message?"
S - "Oh yes, I'm from the insurance section of your bank, and have been trying to follow up with him for some time regarding Life Insurance."
"Oh, well I'm afraid he died."
S - pause ... "Would you be interested in Life Insurance?"
A few not very nice words and a firm click as I hung up.
Kim, I get it that you don't want gifts from the family, just to feel like they give a damn. I am sorry they are like this. I hope you treated yourself to something you really wanted - I find I get myself the best gifts anyway