Hello all, my dad did not quite make it to Christmas last year, but he stayed with us as long as he could, until the whole family was together with him. He always was a person who brought people together. He's done that yet again this year even though he is with us in spirit, not in physical person. Because he died at this time of year, we all felt the need to be together again and people made the journey to gather at my house for the holiday. We have started a special tradition that was suggested in a grief group my mom attends. We made a remembrance wreath with fir branches and four candles, each representing part of the experience of having loved so deeply and no longer having that person with us. I chose a blue candle for grief, a purple candle for courage to face the loss, a gold candle for the memories we cherish, and a red candle for the deep and never-ending love.