Hi Sooner. I'm glad to hear you are keeping busy and occasionally go out with friends. How are you doing this weekend? I imagine the weekends are even tougher (if you work Mon-Fri) with all the extra time. I can't imagine the emptiiness you must feel, and how "foreign" your life must seem to you. I am sure you must feel numb at times. I hope you can get into a grief support group or to see a counselor soon. In the meantime, like others who have gone thru this have mentioned, there is no predictable or proper way to grieve or to heal; it is a personal process we all must figure out on our own. I lost my parents many years ago when I was still fairly young, a brother several years ago and just over a year ago I lost my oldest sister. As much as I loved all of them, they were not as meaningful to me as my PALS, Dave. He is always my first thought when I wake up and when I fall asleep, & has been for nearly 40 years. It is Dave I think of when I have something I just need to share, whether good or bad. When I saw the first robin of Spring, I thought of sharing it with Dave. When someone cuts me off in traffic, I imagine telling Dave about it later. If I've read a particularly good book, or saw a old friend in town, or as the first Spring flowers poked their little heads out of the ground, it is Dave I think of first. So, my friend Sooner, I am pretty sure these are things you are experiencing right now; how to fill the void & who do you share all of the big & little things that occur in your life every day.
I can understand that you feel lost and like you don't quite fit in anywhere but work. I think you will have to carry those feelings for a long time, because as you said, you lost your soul-mate and best friend. That is someone who will never be replaced. However, since you had his life and love to share and had a beautiful relationship I hope that someday you find that wonderful memories will help to sustain you and move you forward. Please know that people here "get" you and we will help to support you whenever we can. HUGS!