RICHPD
Member
- Joined
- Mar 7, 2008
- Messages
- 20
- Reason
- Loved one DX
- Diagnosis
- 3/2008
- Country
- US
- State
- ma
- City
- weymouth
I posted several weeks ago regarding my 88 year old dad that has been diagnosed with als. Since then he has moved in with us and is confined to a wheel chair and some walking with this walker. He is right handed but now because of dexterity problems must do his daily activities using his left hand which you can imagine how difficult that is. He has been 100 % independent until this disease hit him but I’m not sure where I should intervene to help him and where I should leave him alone.
He is a former military person and is very routine in his daily tasks including making the bed as soon as he’s up. I’m getting him Velcro shirts but for now he is still buttoning his shirts using the buttoning tool he has. I offer to help him but he insists that he has to do for himself. I understand and let him alone, but when he’s done he complains how everything takes him so long to do, he complains about this almost every day. He gets up at 7:00 and it takes him about two hours to be ready for breakfast. His routine includes dressing, going to the bathroom, making the bed, washing up, brushing his hair etc. While I want him to remain strong by keeping the body moving I don’t want to see him stress out over how long everything takes to do. Where do I draw the line from leaving him independent and providing him physical assistance. Naturally the things he can't do I help him it's the little routine things that I'm struggling with. Thanks for your help all.
He is a former military person and is very routine in his daily tasks including making the bed as soon as he’s up. I’m getting him Velcro shirts but for now he is still buttoning his shirts using the buttoning tool he has. I offer to help him but he insists that he has to do for himself. I understand and let him alone, but when he’s done he complains how everything takes him so long to do, he complains about this almost every day. He gets up at 7:00 and it takes him about two hours to be ready for breakfast. His routine includes dressing, going to the bathroom, making the bed, washing up, brushing his hair etc. While I want him to remain strong by keeping the body moving I don’t want to see him stress out over how long everything takes to do. Where do I draw the line from leaving him independent and providing him physical assistance. Naturally the things he can't do I help him it's the little routine things that I'm struggling with. Thanks for your help all.