- May 31, 2009
- Lost a loved one
Hi my name is Jenny and I am going through the hardest time of my life which is also supposed to be the happiest time of my life...I just got married and recently bought our first home...but there are two major problems in mine and my husbands life...my mother was diagnosed with ALS right before we got married, and his mother is battling with lung cancer..they have both gotten worse... my mother in law has 3 months ,if that, left to live because of the fact that the tumors are all throughout her body so they cannot do radiation they could do more rounds of chemo but she is so weak she would not have much of a quality of life. So she is living her last days at home...my mother was diagnosed right before my wedding and they said she had had it for about 2 years before she was diagnosed. She is depressed all the time but who can blame her, she cannot use her legs , her right arm is gone, and her right neck muscles are giving out. my sister and my father and I are at our wits end because she is so negative all the time, she also has OCD , bipolarism , depression, and talks about suicide all the time... My father in law is an alcoholic and is not in the picture. So things are pretty tough all around... this is my first time writing out what is actually going on in my life...i cannot believe it is real. I know we always say take it one day at a time but I just don't know how much more I can take. She has a motorized wheelchair our bathroom were made handicapped and we have a chair lift that goes up the stairs but we are having a problem lifting my mom now...my father and sister and I all have back problems how can we break it to my mom that we need her to get a catheter so my dad can have a full nites sleep. And is anyone having problems with stubborness and negativity like we are?