Timshelper
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Hi everyone,
As you all know I was to be Tims caregiver when he decided it was time. It has now been almost a year that I have waited paitently for him to make up his mind. Well after all the waiting my life has now taken a turn and I am working 2 jobs as a personal care giver to people in facilities with no days off and Tim now needs me. About a month ago he told me that another girl who had cancer asked him if he could move in with him and that they could look after each other. I found this too be a bit odd because she had breast cancer and now has secondary cancer ravishing her body and I couldnt see how this would work but I figured if this is what he wanted so be it. I have now recieved a letter from Tim and this girl has decided that she would like him to move in with her and another girl. The problem with this is that he had all these renovations done to his house so it would be suitable for him to live in. Tim has always wanted to stay in his house but now its almost impossible for me to move in because I've taken on these jobs but I'm feeling guilty because I know he does not want to move and I dont know what I should do . I put my life on hold for him but my life had to move on. My husband and I have started a fresh start and if I stay with Tim through the nights I will not see Bob at all because of the hours I am working, which is just going to start problems for us again. What should I do I feel like I'm letting Tim down but How long could I have waited before living myself again. Does anyone have any suggestions? Also some of my shifts will be graveyard which would mean I wouldnt be able to be there all the time anyway. I am also very tired because I have no time for myself so I dont know if I would be much of an asset to him. I cant believe this happening and why did these girls say one thing and now are trying to do something they know Tim will only be depressed by the whole thing. I am going to go see him tomorrow before work but I really dont know what I'm going to say.
Kim
ALS About Loving Someone
As you all know I was to be Tims caregiver when he decided it was time. It has now been almost a year that I have waited paitently for him to make up his mind. Well after all the waiting my life has now taken a turn and I am working 2 jobs as a personal care giver to people in facilities with no days off and Tim now needs me. About a month ago he told me that another girl who had cancer asked him if he could move in with him and that they could look after each other. I found this too be a bit odd because she had breast cancer and now has secondary cancer ravishing her body and I couldnt see how this would work but I figured if this is what he wanted so be it. I have now recieved a letter from Tim and this girl has decided that she would like him to move in with her and another girl. The problem with this is that he had all these renovations done to his house so it would be suitable for him to live in. Tim has always wanted to stay in his house but now its almost impossible for me to move in because I've taken on these jobs but I'm feeling guilty because I know he does not want to move and I dont know what I should do . I put my life on hold for him but my life had to move on. My husband and I have started a fresh start and if I stay with Tim through the nights I will not see Bob at all because of the hours I am working, which is just going to start problems for us again. What should I do I feel like I'm letting Tim down but How long could I have waited before living myself again. Does anyone have any suggestions? Also some of my shifts will be graveyard which would mean I wouldnt be able to be there all the time anyway. I am also very tired because I have no time for myself so I dont know if I would be much of an asset to him. I cant believe this happening and why did these girls say one thing and now are trying to do something they know Tim will only be depressed by the whole thing. I am going to go see him tomorrow before work but I really dont know what I'm going to say.
Kim
ALS About Loving Someone