13fishfan
New member
- Joined
- Dec 14, 2006
- Messages
- 2
- Reason
- PALS
- Country
- US
- State
- nv
- City
- las vegas
My first posting. It has been very helpful for me to read your stories and have you let me into your lives.
My Father was diagnosed in the last year with ALS. This has been a huge blow to everyone in the family. He is my rock.
He lives alone as my mother passed away the year before with cancer. He has been using a walker but it sounds like he may be moving to a cart soon. Because of this recent loss, I have a sense of urgency to do what I can to help him now and not later. He is like many of the dads described in here. He does not want to burden anyone. When I recently asked him what his plans are for living arrangements in the near future, he said he would live in a retirement home with a medical facility attached or something so as not to put anyone out. I know he first choice is to live in his home. He is very independent. However, he concerned about being taken advantage of as time goes on by a professional caregiver. He is fortunate, he has money, so he has choices.
There is nothing my dad could ask me that I would not do for him. He will not ask me but it is clear this is his first choice.
I am seriously thinking of moving my family in with him. We would have to move (1000+ miles). Dealing with mom’s health this far away was tough on me and my wife/ kids. Not sure I could do that again.
I am worried about a lot of things but I guess I am more worried about my wife and kids. Both little ones are under 6 years.
Questions
If I move my family into his home, while he has a professional caregiver:
What will this environment be like for me? What am I signing up for?
Any spouses have any feedback?
What kind of stressors will this place on my mariage?
What are the pitfalls I should look out for?
What can I do to make this easier for my wife?
I have many questions, but I will wait to see what the response is on these questions. I know they are open-ended questions, but I have to start somewhere.
Thank you again for sharing your stories with us rookies. We can learn a lot by listening.
My Father was diagnosed in the last year with ALS. This has been a huge blow to everyone in the family. He is my rock.
He lives alone as my mother passed away the year before with cancer. He has been using a walker but it sounds like he may be moving to a cart soon. Because of this recent loss, I have a sense of urgency to do what I can to help him now and not later. He is like many of the dads described in here. He does not want to burden anyone. When I recently asked him what his plans are for living arrangements in the near future, he said he would live in a retirement home with a medical facility attached or something so as not to put anyone out. I know he first choice is to live in his home. He is very independent. However, he concerned about being taken advantage of as time goes on by a professional caregiver. He is fortunate, he has money, so he has choices.
There is nothing my dad could ask me that I would not do for him. He will not ask me but it is clear this is his first choice.
I am seriously thinking of moving my family in with him. We would have to move (1000+ miles). Dealing with mom’s health this far away was tough on me and my wife/ kids. Not sure I could do that again.
I am worried about a lot of things but I guess I am more worried about my wife and kids. Both little ones are under 6 years.
Questions
If I move my family into his home, while he has a professional caregiver:
What will this environment be like for me? What am I signing up for?
Any spouses have any feedback?
What kind of stressors will this place on my mariage?
What are the pitfalls I should look out for?
What can I do to make this easier for my wife?
I have many questions, but I will wait to see what the response is on these questions. I know they are open-ended questions, but I have to start somewhere.
Thank you again for sharing your stories with us rookies. We can learn a lot by listening.