This is going to sound crazy, but can you take some sort of vacation where you completely get away for a week or two? It might help get your mind off all this, maybe.
I know when I was going through the diagnostic process, it was hard for me to shake the obtrusive thoughts. I think the best thing is to do things you enjoy. If you can’t get away, could you set up dates with friends or fun things you can do with your kids?
Whatever is going on, you can’t change it. But what you can do is try to change your attitude towards it. Counseling is a great idea, but so is doing things you enjoy. Meditation is also effective, as is listening to your favorite music, singing, doing creative things, and doing active things. This approach will serve you well no matter what is on the other end of your ultimate evaluation.