I'm so glad you responded Mike. I noticed the thread was closed which kinda made me feel bad, but felt that it was proper to close it.
I may have taken her message out of context and overreacted.
You know that I put a lot of effort into being respectful to everyone and also do my best to follow the guidelines for posting on this forum. I felt like she came at me, so I retaliated, but in a respectful manner. Once again, my whack a doodle butt screwed up?
My 1st reaction was "oh no she didn't" because she's never responded to any of my posts and this was our only dialogue to date. I figured that she may have assumed that because I'm so focused on his compensation, I have ulterior motives.
But now that you mention the wifey thing, I can see how I may have made a big boo boo. Ughhhh, now I owe her an apology for being an ass. If on the other hand I was right, I made my point, time to move on.
Speaking of the wifey, I'm waiting on my son to swing by for $ yet again to wire my bro. He's a smoker and hasn't had a cigarette in a few days. I know he should quit, but he's going thru serious nicotine w/drawal. I quit for the longest time w/ the aid of Wellbutrin, an anti depressant which is similar to Chantex. I picked up the nasty habit again, so can relate to the whole fidgety nervous thing when I don't have a cig. I only smoke a pack a week, but it's still addicting.
She won't splurge for a pack of cigs for him! He's gonna need gas too until he gets his 1st check on the 1st.
He just informed me that he hasn't paid his rent for Oct., so on the 1st, he's gonna pay Oct and Nov., as well as other bills. She has a brand new van and uses her chk to make car pmts. meanwhile he's driving a beat up old pick up.
It cost about a grand to visit him because I stayed in a hotel for the 1st few days during a football weekend due to her not wanting me to stay w/ them. However, the last night, he put his foot down and I stayed w/ him because he had to get me to airport for very early flight.
We spent the evening before I left watching the game. I cooked him a nice meal and we chilled.
She's a vegetarian, so refuses to prepare meals w/ meat. He said she makes him kale. He's lost 70 lbs since I last saw him and she's got him eating kale! I did some grocery shopping w/ him because his fridge was bare.
I didn't associate what Gooseberry said w/ my bros wife. I immediately assumed she was referring to me. My bad Mike, you know what they say about assumptions.
I guess I'm a little sensitive with being under the stress of his dx., dealing w/ my anger issues related to wifey and now dealing w/ my 32 year old son who just moved back in w/ me and is completely dependent on me for everything! He's on my cell phone plan & I provide his gas and cigs too.
I can't send a private message, so if she's read my post and was offended how can I offer an apology?
If I'm wrong or cross the line, I don't hesitate to apologize. I meant what I said about character building and the military. I'm sure that you, a 20 year man can relate to that school of thought.
Let me know how to proceed. Do I drop it or do I offer a sincere apology?
Thanks Mike