Larry, it hurts, it was very sudden and not expected just yet. We can never be prepared no matter how much we think we are.
My little grandson, seven years old, dictated this little message to his sister, aged ten, who wrote it out on a little card to go with flowers:
Dear Clive,
We love you and we miss you but we know you are better now because you are up in Heaven.
Sending you a big hug and lots of love,
Chloe, Matthew and Charlotte X X X
My sentiments exactly...may you get some small comfort from knowing your loving wife is also 'better'...