Jamiekay
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- Jul 27, 2013
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- Edgewood
Last Wednesday changed me to the core. At work I had the biggest presentation on my career, knowing that my father was getting the diagnosis of his life it was hard to concentrate one anything else. After my big presentation to my bosses, boss, boss I went home and learned that my father had ALS. The conversation was short with my mom and dad didn't want to talk at all. Later in the evening mom had a couple of drinks and called me back. She said that she thought I might have some questions and asked what they were.......
.... Of course I did. So many questions running through me head. I asked, what has dad always wanted to do?
Mom said, "It's funny you should ask, he have talked about that today." "Your father has always wanted to go to Australia!" "Geez mom, give me something I can work with!" I joked.
Since Wednesday my husband and I have talked about this utter truth my mom told me about on the first day.
We think we can make it happen for them. My question resides in not how to, but how to convince them to go. Dad is in the early stages we believe. His right leg drags and his speech is effected and he has lost 20 pounds but I know how can travel. I don't know if they would accept this gift. We want to do something that they have to remember for later. More importantly, I want all of my dads dreams to come true before its too late. My parents have been married for over 30 years, I don't know how mom is going to survive. I want her to have more memories, both of them.
I was given contact information today of a travel agent who's husband had ALS and I am thinking of prebooking the trip (after the next dr apt in August) and just telling them here is where you are going. But I also have to get them passports, we can expedite them but how do I do all this without telling them? I don't want them to turn the gift down, and I don't want them to think they are "putting us out" by getting this for them.
Any advice you can give......
Jamie
.... Of course I did. So many questions running through me head. I asked, what has dad always wanted to do?
Mom said, "It's funny you should ask, he have talked about that today." "Your father has always wanted to go to Australia!" "Geez mom, give me something I can work with!" I joked.
Since Wednesday my husband and I have talked about this utter truth my mom told me about on the first day.
We think we can make it happen for them. My question resides in not how to, but how to convince them to go. Dad is in the early stages we believe. His right leg drags and his speech is effected and he has lost 20 pounds but I know how can travel. I don't know if they would accept this gift. We want to do something that they have to remember for later. More importantly, I want all of my dads dreams to come true before its too late. My parents have been married for over 30 years, I don't know how mom is going to survive. I want her to have more memories, both of them.
I was given contact information today of a travel agent who's husband had ALS and I am thinking of prebooking the trip (after the next dr apt in August) and just telling them here is where you are going. But I also have to get them passports, we can expedite them but how do I do all this without telling them? I don't want them to turn the gift down, and I don't want them to think they are "putting us out" by getting this for them.
Any advice you can give......
Jamie