Hi Teej,
In response to your question, I was left with the decision whether on not to put my mom on a trache/vent when she stopped breathing one morning and was rushed to ER.
I always asked her what she wanted b4 this day came, but she never expressed her wished with me. I elected to have this done. In the past we had in home nursing, this proved to be quite challenging. I learned all I need to from them, as far as suctioning, trache care, peg cleaning,bathing, everything involved in my moms care basically.
And I must say as horrified as I was about the thought of suctioning cause I had not training I have become very proficient in everything. We went through alot of nurses though some good, but most the ladder. There absentee forced me to learned these things because I had no choice.
I am now the full time care take for my mom, and I can't lie it is very hard and stressful but I'm doin it. I just ask god for strength and patience and take it day for day.
Hope this helps
Sophia