So here's an update,
Lot's going on on many fronts.
I am dealing with the company that sold me the wrong sized sling.
JimInVA very kindly and generously gave/loaned me his size large.
Which is a big big help. I may end up buying a new one, but it is so helpful that I can actually try it first to see if it is right for us.
I hope that with my limited but increasing knowledge and sling collection, I can be of help to others in the future.
So I think this can really work. (The Liko Highback Hygiene Sling/Vest) Keeping his posture upright while trying to seat him on the toilet is essential. There is a learning curve. There is the issue of getting the pants on and off which takes practice and experimentation, but we are definitely making progress.
Meanwhile our overnight caregiver is quitting on us and we are trying to train someone new while still learning it ourselves.
Oh, and the Hoyer lift is making frightening noises while lifting, so I am dealing with the same company to get help with that.
I guess this is just par for the course in this world of ALS.
I am sure many of you can relate.