I'm at ten months here. I can relate to so much of what you have written Lenore and Sue. I'm coming out the other way though, I'm not selling. We were on the ALS fast track, 20 months from diagnosis. We had been in the house for 12 years before the nightmare and have a lot of good memories here. I can see that if it had been longer term that I would want somewhere without the ALS memories. I took Tillie's advice from a post a while ago and changed up a lot of the rooms. I rearranged and painted. So they still look familiar, but different enough to not trigger bad memories. The room Dave passed in is now a very large sewing/guest room. It looks totally different and for the most part I can enjoy it. Once in a while I kind of flash back to it before, but I try to not dwell on it. I know Dave would be glad I have it as a "happy place" for my quilting. He always told me to "buy the fabric if you want it."
I'm in a safe neighborhood, but I don't feel the same without Dave here. I put on the front and back porch lights every night, which I didn't do before. I also added motion sensor lights to the back yard. I added blinds to windows that didn't have them before. It's not like Dave was a big man, but just having him here made me feel safer. I also keep my cell phone in my pocket all the time. I'm a senior, but not ancient (61), and not frail. But I want to make sure I can call someone if I get injured. I am too young to get one of those alert things ("help I've fallen and I can't get up") plus I HATE the scare tactic commercials they run!
I was just telling a friend today that sometimes it feels like it didn't really happen. Three years ago this month we had no clue, and by December we were suspicious Dave had ALS. I feel like my life is designated Pre-ALS and Post-ALS. Very often when I see a date on something, or a picture, I think, "We didn't know what was coming then."
Mary if this had happened in our old home, I might feel differently as we had many good memories and many neighbors as friends there. While he was sick there, the bulk of his vented time was in this home, so this home is all ALS.