Taking ativan says he feels worse?

[JACKIEMAX]

thank you from jackiemax

i have read all your posts and thank you all from the bottom of my heart. my husband's pc dr. suggested we go ahead and call in hospice and give up home health, but medicare will now allow hospice to come in until he is 'bedfast' and cannot feed himself. i think that's a disgrace, but he is close to that now i think.

as for his family, when he sits in his rocking chair with his oxygen/nose thing, he 'looks' pretty healthy , but his voice is soooo weak, and he can barely take a step alone. he has fallen three times.

they all live out of town, and refuse to accept he is dying. they accuse me of trying to isolate them from him bec. i wrote and told them he did not need the stress of a house full of company for sev. days now.

thanks for allowing me to vent. i sometimes feel i'm all alone in this, but i am a christian, and i know God will see me through this.

thank you all.

jackiemax

 

[Icanmanz]

Hi Jackiemax! So sorry to hear about your husband's decline. God bless you, I know what you are going through. Cannot think of the right words to be of some help. All I know is the our Father is there to help you through this, and when He is ready to take your husband home, He will embrace him and carry him home. He will be pain free, singing with the angels. Just keep talking to him, he'll want to hear your voice to the end. Even if he appears to slip in a deep sleep, but still breathing, keep talking to him, he will still be able to hear you, feel you, and even your scent will mean the world to him. God bless you both, jackie. Don't worry about the family, what they say, just concentrate on your husband, and let them talk. They'll tire sooner, or later.

I am not going to be home tonite. I am spending the night at my son's tonite. My husband will be on the computer, but he just plays games! Like a big kid! LOL

God bless. I will be praying for you guys. Be back tomorrow! Don't feel so all alone, we are here!

Irma

 

[CindyM]

Hi Jackie. You would think they would want to spread out their visits so they could get some "quality" time with him. I am sorry you are going through this. Everybody thinks of the patient and sometimes it is easy to overlook the caregiver. Cindy

 

[JACKIEMAX]

to gina and others

i, too, was told a year ago my husband might only have a few weeks and i
actually posted that on here. but now he is bedfast, i feed him his cereal, and
give him ensure w/ice cream in it and feed him some real food, but he has
little appetite. gina, try and calm down. you are doing the right things. it is
in God's hands. i have asked hospice to come every single day now and he
wears adult diapers and has lost all dignity having to be
changed' and taken complete care of now. he no longer reads the
newspaper or works suduko puzzles anymore. his bipap is set as highas it
will go/ plus oxygen, and i give him ativan and morphine on a nightly and sometimes
daily basis for his comfort and rest. i keep saying to myself 'i can't go through
this, but God promised never to forsake me and he will see me thorugh it.Horace
is a christian and i know he will go to a better place soon, but believe me, i
know and understand your pain. jackiemax

 

[CindyM]

I am thinking of you and Horace tonight, Jackie. This disease is sometimes very sad. I'm sending hugs your way...Cindy

 

[terri]

jackiemax

Hi,

You have come a long way in the past year, Jackiemax. I'll be praying for you and Horace.

terri

 

[subject180]

I was on Ativan for Generalized Anxiety Disorder with Panic Disorder. It worked okay, however once I started seeing a specialist, I changed to Klonopin. I find that Klonopin is much more consistent, meaning I don't feel it kick in and wear off like I did the Ativan, this apparently is due to its longer half-life. I did find out the hard way, that these are abused by some people, so don't leave them accessible in any way. I had mine stolen once, bad experience!

 

[abbas child]

Hi subject180, your post is important and I hope you will continue to post, but I wanted to just let you know this is an old thread, so you may not get a reply from the earlier posters.

Welcome to the forum--I see you've been diagnosed now for a while. I hope you're doing "well", although that is such a poor choice of word!

Ann