how do you know when it is the end?
i'm the caregiver who wrote that our dr. will not prescribe ativan or morphine for my husband. his home health cnt who bathes him 3 xs a week told me recently he was 'in the last stages of his life', but what does that mean to you caregivers who say morphine and ativan help? what is your husband's status? is he on a bi-pap a lot? a trach/vent? can he still eat, and talk?
i lost a husband in 94 to acute lukemia, and altho he, himself, was a physician, he nor his other physician friends, let me know at the end that it was really the end, so i was in big-time denial when he actually died. they tho't they were all protecting me, but that's not true - i needed to know.
i just don't know what his 'last stages are', so please, any of you that can help me, i'll appreciate it. he can barely walk to the bathroom on his walker, and when he gets back to his rocking chair, he is soooo out of breath. he is on oxygen a lot, but his bi-pap more and more now. his breathing capacity is 50, and his anxiety level is off the roof.
i need your input. please.
jackiemax