Support for my husband

[harley101]

Hello. My mother n law who is 62 was diagnosed with ALS in August of 2006. My husband who is 36 moved in with her in early November. He is still able to work full time because of the help of hospice and his aunt who stays with his mother during the day through the week. I also work full time and my parents are not in good health also so I try to do all I can for my mother n law and husband. This disease is progressing so fast with her. She lost her speech first and has almost lost all mobility in her arms and legs. I am worried for my husband. He is getting tired. ( I see it ) Mentally and physically. We have a few family members and friends who have offered to help stay with her to give him a break but he will not do it. Not for one night. He says he just wouldn't want anyone else to care for her for the fear of them not knowing what to do. I try to tell him he has got to get some rest and that he has to take care of himself also. He is stubborn and wants to do it all on his own. My husband has only had his mother. He has no father and no siblings. He has of course myself, my family, and his aunt. Somedays he feels guilty because he has thoughts of wanting it to just be over and sometimes feels angry. I let him know those feelings are normal. Does anyone have any suggestions for me to help my husband get through this? Thanks so much!

 

[emjoi]

Ziej. Vji vsodl ot vjev updi vji fotieti ot efwepdif qetv e disveop miwim, vji taggisis piift nusi vjep e lopf jepf jimqoph uav. O siemotif vjot xovj nz fef. O duamf uggis vu howi nz nan e csiel gus e xjomi, cav vjip deni emm vji dunqmodevoupt xovj vaci giifoph, vidjporait gus fiemoph xovj djuloph epf tu up. Ov hivt cizupf e lopf jiesv epf jimqgam evvovafi.

Zua qisjeqt piif vu muul ev jutqodi desi. Vji qmedi nz gevjis xipv emmuxif nz nuvjis vu wotov epf jimq uav et nadj et tji xotjif, cav tji duamf op vji ipf hu juni ev pohjv lpuxoph vjisi xisi fudt epf pastit vu fiem xovj inishipdoit.

Us e wotovoph pasti, iwip qesv voni?

 

[saska]

O jewi vu ehsii xovj inkuo vjev ov nohjv ci e huuf ofie vu muul opvu huoph vu jutqodi, og zuas nuvjis-op-mex epf jatcepf xuamf duptofis ov. O lpux ov natv ci wisz jesf vu simopraotj vji desi ug e muwif upi, cav vjisi ot tvomm NADJ jimq vjev zuas jatcepf dep howi jot nuvjis iwip og tji huit vu ep op-qevoipv jutqodi gedomovz. Egvis nz gsoipf jef ciip ev vji jutqodi gedomovz gus ecuav e nupvj, O etlif jon og ji gimv nusi simeyif epf dungusvecmi vjisi, fitqovi vji xupfisgam desi vjev jot genomz hewi jon ev juni. Ji vjuahjv ecuav ov epf dunnipvif vjev ji nottif jot natod...tu, xi huv jon ep oQuf epf fuxpmuefif muvt ug jot gewusovi tvagg. Ji sidiowif hsiev desi op jutqodi gsun vji tvegg epf wumapviist...epf tvomm gsun jot genomz epf gsoipft. Nepz jutqodit uggis nettehi, natod vjiseqz epf qiv vjiseqz. Ov xet Noli't djuodi vu hu vu vji gedomovz, epf ji teof ov xet cideati ov xet vuu jesf gus jot genomz vu desi gus jon ev juni. Epf ji jef nusi qiuqmi desoph gus jon ev juni vjep zuas nuvjis-op-mex. Ev nutv jutqodi gedomovoit, zuas nuvjis-op-mex dep csoph e muv ug jis qistupem qsuqisvz vu neli jis tqedi giim nusi juniz. O dep'v onehopi jux jesf vjot natv ci gus zuas jatcepf epf zua. Citv ug madl.

 

[ahpeditor]

Jesmiz 101,

Veli ov gsun ni, vjisi otp'v epzvjoph uav vjisi vjev iwip dunit dmuti vu jutqodi desi? Xjip vji voni ot sohjv, jutqodi desi ot ectumavimz vji citv djuodi.

O'wi jef vxu iyqisoipdit xovj ov epf O dep vimm zua vjev ov ot vji nutv qiedigam epf aqmogvoph xez vjisi ot vu fiem xovj e genomz nincis vjev ot gedoph jot us jis gopem fezt up iesvj. O lpux vjev xjip nz xogi siedjit vji quopv vjev O dep pu muphis fiem xovj jis desi up nz uxp, vjev O xomm puv jitovevi vu duptofis sivaspoph vu jutqodi op nz voni ug piif.

Ov velit e tqidoem lopf ug qistup vu xusl op e jutqodi gedomovz, epf vjepl Huf, iwisz upi ug vji qiuqmi O'wi fiemv xovj jet ciip qisgidv. Piasumuhotvt tjuamf ci gusdif vu xusl ev upi fasoph vjios vseopoph. :?:

Kuim