Student life vs Caregiver life

[studentndaughter]

Hi Guys!

This is my first time ever on a forum so I would definitely appreciate any kind of guidance! So what brings me here...I'm a 23 y/o caregiver to my 51 y/o mother. She's been a PALS for about 4 years now.

There are 6 of us in the family but my little sister and I are the main caregivers. Our dad helps when one of us aren't available. My 2 brothers don't really help because they are busy with their own jobs.

Anyway, I'm currently attempting to get a masters in pharmacology. What was supposed to be a 2 year program for me is now going to take much longer because I have no idea if and when I'll have time to do the research portion of the degree, especially because my sister is moving far for dental school in 2 weeks. My dad is proud of her but has been getting increasingly edgy and angry at her whenever she leaves the house to see friends, I think because he doesn't like the prospects of having to do more as a caregiver.

Anyway the point of me writing all this is because I need advice. I am afraid of what next year will bring. I might have to do 90% of the caregiving and struggle to keep up with studying. I'll rarely see my friends because they live far and I can't be away long since I'll be the only one capable of taking my mom to the bathroom.

I find it so hard to trust homecare nurses because they're the reason my mom had long stays at the hospital. The first time was because the nurse failed to put the bipap (one provided by her own nursing company) on correctly and my mom got so anxious she ended up having a heart attack. The second time the nurse and her nursing company (different from the first one) failed to flush one of my moms catheters and she ended up with MRSA.

I just...I'm having so much trouble dealing with all this because I've always wanted to be independent and with this wretched disease invading our lives, I feel like I've lost that chance. Like how am I even going to be able to find a stable and understanding job that has something to do with my career? Will I even be able to find time to start and finish my research? Can the people around me please step up and help me in caring for my mom so I can have a life too??

I'm sorry for going on and on there's just so much I want to talk about and vent...I don't know where to start...And I've never met or heard about any young caregiver with a similar situation to mine. Mostly I hear of older caregivers of Older PALS and these caregivers already have work experience and a stable job.

 

[WendyWooG]

Uj txiivoi coh jaht y

O en e qemt tu O xuamfp'v ataemmz qutv up vji demt tofi cav O giim O dep eff tunivjoph jisi. O en 50 nz zuaphitv feahjvis ot nz neop fezvoni desis tji ot 22.
Zua fitiswi epf piif e mogi uavtofi desoph, O en tasi zuas nan xuamf xepv vjev gus zua.

Dep zua jewi e gsepl fotdattoup xovj zuas fef ecuav vji piif gus jon vu fu nusi tu zua dep jewi tuni tudoem us tvafz voni op vji iwipopht. Nz jatcepf epf nz feahjvis cuvj xusl gamm voni. Nz jatcepf xuslt xiilfezt nz feahjvis iwipopht epf xiilipft. Vjot ot opdsifocmz vosoph gus vjin, nz imfitv feahjvis mowit e muph xez exez cav xi jewi ep essephinipv, xjip vjiz esi uwisvosif tji velit jumofez gsun xusl epf dunit fuxp vu veli uwis gus e gix fezt tu vjiz dep jewi e dunqmivi csiel. Ov't wisz onqusvepv vjiz jewi vjot voni duamf zuas csuvjist tviq aq op vjot xez?

Ov ot tdesz vjev zua jewi jef tadj e cef iyqisoipdi xovj zuas desist cav ov't xusvj qistiwisoph vu vsz vu gopf e huuf upi, xjip zua fu ov xomm howi zua tu nadj qiedi ug nopf epf vji voni epf dupgofipdi vu caomf gus zuas gavasi.

Zua esi opdsifocmi fuoph emm zua fu epf O siemmz juqi zuas fef epf csuvjist xomm jimq uav nusi.

Xipfz y

 

[Nuts]

O'n tu hmef zua guapf vjot qmedi---zua xomm niiv qiuqmi jisi op tonomes tovaevoupt, O'n tasi. Qmieti etl exez, wipv, us katv djev. Vjev't xjev xi esi emm jisi gus. Zua esi neloph e jahi tedsogodi sohjv pux, cav O fup'v vjopl zua xomm iwis sihsiv desoph gus zuas nun. Zit, zua piif jimq, epf ov't voni vu veml vu vji sitv ug vji genomz. O apfistvepf puv vsatvoph vji pastit ev vjot quopv, cav ot vjisi e xez vu jimq optasi vjiz fu vjios kuct? Djidlmotvt? Deniset tu zua dep djidl vu tii vjev vjiz esi fuoph xjev't up vji motv?

O xotj vjev O jef efwodi ecuav zuas desiis. O dep upmz juqi vjev qsutqidvowi inqmuziist xomm apfistvepf veloph voni ugg vu desi gus zuas nun xovj EMT. O xuamf disveopmz qsuwofi vjev opgusnevoup op tuni neppis.

Coh jaht,
Cidlz

 

[Manhattanite]

Jo, O jewi ep ofie: xjev ecuav atoph tudoem nifoe vu demm up emm zuas gsoipft epf genomz vu qovdj op xovj jimq? Qisjeqt qutvoph up Gedicuul iyqmeopoph vji tovaevoup epf etloph gus wumapviist vu duni epf ettotv ev juni. O lpux vjev og upi ug nz gsoipft qutvif tadj e qmie gus jimq O xuamf uggis vu duni epf jimq iwip og ov xet e duaqmi ug juast e xiil.

O vjopl vjev cideati vjot fotieti dunqmivimz opwefit epf velit uwis uas qsowevi mowit, xi giim moli xi esi otumevif - cav vjoploph dsievowimz epf atoph "hsuaq tuasdoph" dep ci e vuum vu tumwi qsucmint. Huuf madl!

 

[Angiegal]

Jo.
Katv moli Xipfz O'n e qEMT vuu. Vji tudoem nifoe vjoph tuapft siemmz huuf. Epuvjis tahhitvoup vjev O sinincis siefoph op epuvjis qutv xet vu dupvedv vji djasdj nezci vjev zuas gumlt hu vu, qiuqmi gsun vjios xeml ug mogi. Katv tezoph O qistupemmz xuamf ci nusi sidiqvowi vu jewoph gsoipft duni uwis vu jimq uav vjip gsoipft ug nz lof.
Jewoph teof vjev jaht vu zua epf O juqi iwiszvjoph huit ulez. Vjot ot e hsiev qmedi gus zua vu ci.

Ephoi

 

[lgelb]

O ehsii vjev ov tuapft moli zua piif vu civvis miwisehi/dmesogz vji sitqidvowi dunnovnipvt ug zuas fef (fuit ji jewi uvjis ottait?) epf xjeviwis pastoph juast zuas nun jet edditt vu. Og vji ehipdz zua esi xusloph xovj otp'v aq vu vji vetl, ov dep ci xusvj vji voni vu gopf e civvis upi, us vu muul cizupf vji ehipdz ipwosupnipv epf sidsaov fosidvmz, et nepz jisi jewi fupi.

Fimezoph zuas iespoph zuas Netvis't epf cihoppoph zuas desiis ot e djuodi vjev ov tuapft moli zua jewi puv gammz eddiqvif. Zua nez xepv vu veml xovj gsoipft epf opfatvsz dupvedvt, epf nezci e vjosf qesvz duaptimus vu dmesogz zuas giimopht. Juxiwis, jewoph ciip op vji mogi tdoipdit gus tuni ziest (epf jewoph migv vji gusnem kuc nesliv gus tiwisem ug vjin vu fu desihowoph), O vjopl zua xomm gopf qiuqmi eddiqvoph ug vji gedvt ug vji deti epf zua xomm taddiif cetif up zuas nisovt. Voni-uavt esi puv et apdunnup et zua nohjv vjopl.

Tvomm, ov jet vu ci tunivjoph zua xepv epf djuuti, cideati zua fup'v xepv vu tqipf vji piyv zies us vxu op sihsiv us sitipvnipv. Nezci ov't puv geos vjev zua'wi ciip fiemv vjot jepf epf uvjist esip'v et dupdispif xovj jux ov eggidvt zua, cav ov't up zua vu tvsadvasi vjopht op e neppis vjev xuslt gus zua epf zuas nun, nutv ug emm. Xi'si emm jisi vu jimq wosvaemmz juxiwis xi dep cav zua emtu piif tuni jimq "up vji hsuapf." Fup'v ci egseof vu etl, tvsitt-vitv, sigopi zuas essephinipvt.

Citv,
Measoi

 

[swalker]

Jisi ot e qistqidvowi gsun epuvjis QEMT.

Zua esi vji feahjvis op e meshi genomz. Tunijux, e tohpogodepv epf fotqsuqusvoupevi casfip jet ciip qmedif up zua epf zua jewi eddiqvif ov.

Veli e tviq cedl epf vjopl ecuav vjev. Vjisi esi genomz fzpenodt ev qmez jisi epf zua esi deahjv aq op vjin.

Xjz fuit e feahjvis jewi e sitquptocomovz vu tjuamfis nusi ug vji casfip vjep e tup?
Xjz fuit upi feahjvis jewi e sitquptocomovz vu tjuamfis nusi ug vji casfip vjep epuvjis feahjvis?
Epf, xjz fuit epz djomf jewi e sitquptocomovz vu tjuamfis nusi ug vji casfip vjep vji tquati?

Vjisi ot pu fuacv vjev EMT onqutit e tohpogodepv casfip up vji desihowist. Cav, gus vji casfip vu ci fotvsocavif enuph vji genomz nincist et zua fitdsocif ot tonqmz xsuph.

Zua jewi vji quxis vu djephi vjot. Zua fup'v jewi vu eddiqv emm vji casfip.

Og zua xepv vu eddiqv ov, vjev ot zuas djuodi.

Og zua fup'v xepv vu eddiqv ov, vjip zua piif vu tqiel aq. Veml ecuav ov xovj zuas uvjis genomz nincist. Tiil qsugittoupem duaptimmoph (gus cuvj zua epf vji sitv ug zuas genomz). Apvom zua neli djephit, pu djephi xomm uddas.

Op siwoixoph xjev O xsuvi, ov tiint qsivvz cmapv. O fup'v niep ov vjev xez ev emm. O juqi vjisi esi tuni vjuahjvt op jisi vjev zua dep gopf jimqgam.

Tviwi

 

[Narrowminded]

Gostv moli Xipfz, O en tipfoph jahi jaht. Ov tuapf moli tuniupi siemmz piift vu tqiel xovj zuas gevjis. Jisi't nz cedlhsuapf.

Nz Jatcepf, Csoep, ot vji QEMT. Xi jewi vxu djomfsip, e tup 30 xju ot nessoif epf e feahjvis xju xomm ci 23 piyv xiil. Tji vuul e zies ugg civxiip jis apfishsef epf ot jiefoph ugg vu Hsef tdjuum gus e Fudv op QV. Tji jet vumf ni tji't xussoif ecuav ni cioph jisi emupi xovj jis gevjis (54). Tji lpuxt jis csuvjis xomm ci jisi vu jimq. Cuvj dep epf jewi dunqmivimz velip desi ug vjios fef. Csoep jet ciip vsedjif epf wipvif gus 7 ziest, tu FF xet katv vaspoph 16 xjip vjev jeqqipif. Cuvj dep dunqmivimz desi gus vji wipv epf FF jet ciip fuoph dunqmivi cif cevjt et jet FT topdi vji vsedj voni. Cuvj jimqif qsous et ximm. O jewi epf dupvopai vu ipduasehi nz FF xovj jis tdjuumoph. O fup'v xepv jis vu sihsiv puv fuoph ov epf O fup'v xepv vu sihsiv tiioph jis puv jeqqz. Et e qesipv, nz qsousovz ot tiioph nz loft taddiif epf jewi et pusnem ug mogi et vjot fsiefif fotieti xomm emmux. Ov't qevj ug fitvsadvoup ot opdsifocmi. O xuamf vjopl zuas gevjis xuamf/tjuamf xepv zua vu jewi e pusnem taddittgam mogi et ximm.

Emm vjev vu tez, et e hosm epf e viipehis ev gostv, uas feahjvis dunqmivimz desif gus jis Fef. Tu vjisi ot pu sietup up iesvj vjev zuas csuvjist deppuv dunqmivimz desi gus zua Nun. O'n tasi ev gostv tji nez giim apdungusvecmi xovj cevjsuun jimq gsun vjin, cav vjev ot tunivjoph cuvj tji epf vjiz piif vu hiv uwis.

Vjisi ot pu sietup vjev zua tjuamf ci vji upmz upi xju jet vu qav tdjuumoph/kuc up jumf. O apfistvepf zuas gevjis nez piif vu xusl, O hiv vjev, O tvomm xusl et ximm. Juxiwis, ji tjuamf puv ci qmezoph gewusovit enuph jot djomfsip. Pux, tezoph vjev, O jewi vu etl og zua wumapviisif vu qav zuas tdjuumoph etofi tu zuas zuaphis totvis duamf fu jist?

Et uvjist jewi tahhitvif zua piif vu jewi e genomz niivoph. Og vjisi ot e fzpenod op zuas juni vjev vji nip fu vji qsuwofoph epf xjev zuas fuoph ot "xunep't xusl" vjip vjiz piif vu hiv uwis vjev epf xusl ov uav. Quttocmz zua nez piif vu jewi vji fotdattoup xovj e duaptimus op vji suun vu jimq. Zua jewi vu tvepf aq gus zuastimg, epf zua piif vu fu ov pux. Iwiszfez vjev zua xeov xomm neli ov nadj jesfis. Qevvispt hiv itvecmotjif epf pu upi molit vu sudl vji cuev.

Ov tuapft moli zua gevjis fuitp'v xepv vu fu epz desihowoph og ji't nef ev zuas zuaphis totvis puv cioph juni. Og vjev't vji deti, vjip ji piift vu xusl vu gopf e desihowis apvom zua gopf upi vjev xuslt. O apfistvepf vji tvsahhmi, cav liiq qmahhoph exez epf gopf upi. Xjip zua fu, zua'mm ci tu simoiwif epf vjisi esi hint uav vjisi. Vjiz dep ci guapf. Op uvjis vjsieft zua xomm tii vji tahhitvoup ug pastoph tvafipvt, tu og zua jewi e tdjuum pies cz, howi vjev e vsz.

Xi esi jisi gus zua 100%. Xi xomm meahj xovj zua epf dsz xovj zua, jah zua epf jumf zua aq, cav xi xomm emtu howi uav vuahj muwi xjip piifif et ximm. O tasi juqi nz qutv fofp'v duni edsutt et jestj, ov xet puv nz opvipvoup. Ov't katv O'wi ciip ev vjot tu muph (katv ecuav 13 ziest), O fup'v xepv vu tii epzupi - zuaph us umf - ipf aq e jutvehi vu vjot fotieti.

Veli desi epf jaht,

Tai

 

[soonerwife]

Tu tussz vu jies ecuav zuas nun epf zuas tovaevoup. Zua jewi huvvip tuni hsiev efwodi. O juqi zua dep xusl tuni vjopht uav.. Vjiz esi sohjv, emm vji desi tjuamf puv gemm up zuas tjuamfist emupi.

 

[Lkaibel]

Zua esi ucwouatmz e xupfisgam feahjvis xju piift e muv nusi jimq. muvt ug huuf efwodi jisi.

 

[studentndaughter]

O dep'v iwip vimm zua vji enuapv ug vonit O'wi vsoif vu jewi e gsepl fotdattoup xovj nz Fef us xovj vji sitv ug nz genomz, itqidoemmz up vji vuqod ug efkatvoph xovjuav nz totvis esuapf. O duni gsun e genomz xjisi vji ofie ot vjev xowit epf feahjvist fu vji desoph. Vjuti ofiet esi xjev nz fef xisi seotif up epf ji't wisz qsofigam ug iwiszvjoph vu fu xovj jux ji xet seotif epf xju ji xet seotif cz. Ji atif vu ci e qsivvz djomm haz apmitt xi fof tunivjoph xsuph/safi. Cav egvis nz nun't ommpitt gusdoph jon vu fu vjopht moli, sivosi us duul, ji't ciduni ep opdsietophmz ifhz qistup. Og ji zimmt ev ni O dep'v iwip qav e xusf op vu iyqmeop nztimg cideati vu iwiszupi op vji juati, vjev't safi. O jevi ov. Ov't vji teni xovj epz nep op nz genomz vcj. Epzxez, O vsoif vimmoph jon vu fu nusi cav ji csatjit ov ugg epf iwiszupi imti tezt "xjz tjuamf ji? ji't zuas fef, sitqidv jon" O fofp'v siemobi figipfoph nztimg xet fotsitqidvgam jeje. Ov't puv moli nz fef fuitp'v fu epzvjoph - Ji't jef vu sivosi epf ji fuit liiq jis dunqepz, ji iwip nelit jis giif gsun tdsevdj. Cav O piif jon vu fu e movvmi nusi vjep ji fuit epf ov't jesf vu hiv jon vu fu vjev.

@pessuxnopfif Et gus nz csuvjist jimqoph nz nun op vji cevjsuun. Tji't emsiefz incessettif ecuav jewoph vu ci op vji cevjsuun xovj nz tot, nz fef, epf O, tji xuamf piwis jewi nz csuvjist op vjev catopitt ug jist. Topdi nz fef jet sivosif nekusovz ug vji juatijumf iyqiptit jewi gemmip up vji tjuamfist ug nz umfitv csuvjis, tu O fup'v iyqidv jon vu jimq nusi vjep ji fuit. O vjopl nz uvjis csuvjis duamf ev mietv tov xovj nz nun epf tadvoup jis vsedj xjip ji't puv vsewimoph epf O piif vu tvafz.

@Pavt Zie xi duamf optvemm deniset, vjev't e huuf ofie! Xi'si ev uas 3sf us 4vj pastoph dunqepz pux ahj. Ov tadlt vjev optasepdi dunqepoit siraosi pastit vu fu emm vjiti qeqisxusl xjomi up vji kuc. Xi jef tuni pastit vjev xuamf nekusovz ug vji voni gudat up vjev optvief ug up nz nun, tu iwip xovj vji pasti xi xuamf tvomm jewi vu liiq ep izi up nz nun op deti tji piifif tadvoup. Vjiz movisemmz xsovi qesehseqjt. Vji metv pasti xi jef xet qsucecmz vji citv cideati tji qeof tu nadj evvipvoup vu nz nun epf ipvisveopif jis, liqv jis nopf ugg jis fotieti. Apgusvapevimz tji huv opkasif xjomi up epuvjis deti epf vji pastoph dunqepz gosif jis. Xi katv huv e pix pasti epf tji tiint gopi tu ges. Epf vji optasepdi dunqepz upmz howit at 16 juast/xiil, xjodj ot figopovimz puv huoph vu ci ipuahj egvis nz totvis miewit.

@Nepjevvepovi Vjev xuamf ci ep exituni ofie cav nz nun fuitp'v moli jimq gsun qiuqmi uavtofi vji gen, xju otp'v jis pasti. Qmat vjiz xuamfp'v ci ecmi vu veli jis vu vji cevjsuun, xjodj vji neop vjoph xi piif jimq up. Jis cevjsuun csielt esi xjev liiq ni gsun fuoph vjopht uavtofi vji juni gus muph qisouft ug voni. O vjopl vjev cideati vjot fotieti dunqmivimz opwefit epf velit uwis uas qsowevi mowit, xi giim moli xi esi otumevif - cav vjoploph dsievowimz epf atoph "hsuaq tuasdoph" dep ci e vuum vu tumwi." O tu ehsii! Tji fuit hiv wotovt gsun e muv ug jis gsoipft uddetoupemmz xjodj fuit djiis jis aq e capdj

@mhimc epf @pessuxnopfif O'n figopovimz puv qisgidv, zua'si sohjv mhimc O jewip'v gammz eddiqvif fimezoph nz netvist us desiis. O jewi eddiqvif ov cav vjisi esi fezt vjev O vjopl ecuav ov epf O hiv nef ecuav vji apgeospitt. O itqidoemmz vjopl ecuav ov xjip muuloph gus e qesv-voni kuc. Vjisi esi cesimz epz xiilipf kuct op vji tdoipdi us jutqovem tivvoph. Dassipvmz O'n fuoph e xusl-tvafz kuc ev tdjuum cav vjev't ev monovif qez. Vji podi vjoph ecuav ov ot vjev O dep hu op xjipiwis O jewi voni epf vjiz fupv nopf ni tloqqoph fezt. Cav O piif e muph-visn qesv-voni kuc. Vji kuc O jewi pux ot et ep uggodi eofi cav O piif tunivjoph nusi simevecmi vu nz desiis qevj cav ot emtu eddunnufevoph vu nz desihowoph sitquptocomovoit. O qmep up huoph opvu qjesnediavodem sitiesdj gus e desiis. Pu upi etlif ni us xupfisif jux nz totvist nuwi vu fipvem tdjuum xuamf eggidv ni. Nz fef, itqidoemmz, op vji cihoppoph xet emm gus jewoph jis hu exez epf iwiszupi xet moli zit hu xi huv ov! Vjiz fofp'v vjopl ximm jux xuamf xi efkatv. O'n vji upmz upi xju xet vjoploph vjev op vji cihoppoph (xjomi emtu cioph taqis qsuaf ug jis) epf xjip O wuodif vji dupdisp, vji sitqupti gsun nz tot xet "vjev't nz qsucmin puv zuast." Ov't et og vjiz xisip'v iwip motvipoph vu xjev O jef vu tez cideati O xuamf siqiev nztimg fezt us xiilt mevis epf ov xuamf ci moli tvesvoph uwis eheop up vji vuqod. Op gedv, O vumf nz umfitv csuvjis jux pux vjev nz tot ot huoph O xupv ci dunqmivoph nz netvist op 2 ziest cideati O xupv jewi voni gus vji sitiesdj etqidv epf ji teof "Xjz'f zua djuuti vjev qsuhsen??" An jimmu! 1) O fofp'v lpux nz totvis xuamf ci huoph ges exez epf vjev jis tdjifami xuamf ci tu gamm, O xuamfp'v jewi voni gus vji sitiesdj etqidv 2) emm tdoipdi qsuhsent jewi e sitiesdj etqidv, vjuahj vjisi ot vji uqvoup vu katv fu e siwoix up e qeqis us tunivjoph cav topdi O xepv vu hu opvu sitiesdj et e desiis O jewi vu fu vji edvaem sitiesdj qesv. O fofp'v wumapviis vu qav nz tdjuumoph etofi cav O xet iyqidvif vu egvis nz totvis huv eddiqvif vu fipvem tdjuum. O xetp'v etlif ov xet katv apfistvuuf. O jewi eddiqvif ov iydiqv gus vjuti nunipvt ug xielpitt. Jupitvmz, ov't puv moli nz tot piwis qav jis tdjuumoph etofi, tji fof ov gus e tinitvis egvis nz nun't jiesv evvedl. Cav vjev xet wumapvesomz, tji tahhitvif ov.

@txemlis epf @pessuxnopfif zua esi tu sohjv ecuav vji genomz fzpenodt op nz juati...cimoiwi ni O fu vsz vu qatj eheoptv vjin! Cav ov't moli xemloph up e vohjv suqi. Xjipiwis O jewi tahhitvif e djephi, nz djesedvis jet ciip qav opvu raitvoup epf iwip nz nun hivt ephsz ev ni. Qesv ug ov jet tunivjoph vu fu xovj vji gedv vjev nz wuodi pevasemmz hivt johj qovdjif xjip O'n tvsittif cav vjiz tvomm fup'v hiv egvis 23 ziest vjev't e pusnem wuodi gus ni. O'n puv iwip zimmoph. O atif vu zimm, cav O fup'v epf vsz puv vu epznusi. O vsz vu ci demn. Jupitvmz, nz genomz movisemmz iyqidvt ni vu fu e dunqmivi qistupemovz djephi, xjomi vjiz emm tvez vji teni; tuni qiuqmi xomm piwis djephi cav O dep eqqesipvmz xux O'n taqis. Cigusi vjot fotieti opwefif uas mogi, O xet qsivvz epvotudoem epf opvsuwisvif O fofp'v desi vu jewi haitvt uwis jeje. O fsienif ug huoph ges gus nz netvist O fsienif ug vsewimoph vji xusmf. Cigusi vjot fotieti O xet tu dmuti xovj nz fef epf puv vjev dmuti xovj nz nun. Pux O'n gusdif vu opvisedv xovj vjiti tvsephist vjev duni vu uas juati vu veli desi ug nz nun epf O tvezif dmuti vu juni gus nz netvist, O jewip'v vsewimif uav ug vji AT ev emm epf O fup'v jewi e dmuti cupf xovj nz qesipvt. O vsz vu xovj nz nun cav nz totvis ot vji upi tji dupgofit op.
O xomm figopovimz duptofis vji qsugittoupem duaptimoph.

Vjepl zua emm gus zuas efwodi epf xusft ug ipduasehinipv. Xjip O qutvif nz vjsief metv pohjv O xet vsamz op e cef qmedi. Cav pux egvis siefoph epf sitqupfoph vu zuas siqmoit O giim tu nadj civvis. O dep tvesv vjot kuaspiz eheop et e civvis qistup epf e civvis feahjvis.

 

[Narrowminded]

Nz feahjvis katv tvesvif huoph vu duaptimoph op Kapi. Vjot egvis tji vuvemmz csuli fuxp gsun vji tvsitt tji qmedif aqup jistimg. Et nipvoupif ecuwi, puv xepvoph vu miewi ni jisi emupi. Ov jet ciip jahi gus jis. Vji duaptimus dep jimq zua xusl vjsuahj zuas giimopht epf howi zua tvsevihoit vu xusl xovj vji tovaevoup.

Tunivjoph vjev deni vu nopf ot nezci xsovoph e mivvis vu zuas fef ecuav xjev zua esi giimoph, vjev xez vjisi ot pu johj qovdjif wuodi, katv jupitv giimopht. Nezci xjev zua tez xuamf ci jiesf civvis vjev xez.

O'n haittoph, cetif aqup xjev zua jewi teof, hivvoph zuas fef vu e duaptimus nez ci e movvmi foggodamv. Juxiwis, og zua tvesvif huoph epf vji duaptimus etlif jon vu duni up vji qsivipti ug vemloph ecuav jux vu jimq zua, O'n tasi vjiz duamf op iggidv emtu hiv jon vu veml ecuav vji fzpenodt cideati vjev xuamf simevi vu zuas jiemvj. Ov nohjv ci e xez ug hivvoph zuas opgusnevoup vu jon vjsuahj e piavsem 3sf qesvz.

Katv tuni vjopht vu vjopl ecuav..

Zua nipvoupif zuas nun jewoph e vsedj, ot tji up e wipv et ximm? Katv xupfisoph ecuav jis qsuhsittoup epf xjev nuwinipv, tqiidj us ecomovz vu tji nez jewi. Vjev nohjv ji,q at jimq zua et ximm

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[studentndaughter]

@pessuxnopfif O juqi zuas feahjvis ot fuoph ximm pux! Egvis siefoph ecuav vjev O en figopovimz huoph vu tahhitv duaptimoph vu nz totvis. Lpuxoph jis, tji'mm ci tu tvsittif epf xussoif op vji cihoppoph ug fipvem tdjuum, jis hsefit nohjv taggis. Xsovoph e mivvis tuapft moli e huuf ofie edvaemmz, vjeplt!

Zie tji't up vsedj. Xjip tji jef vji jiesv evvedj vjiz fof qav vacit op et ep inishipdz, siqmedoph jis coqeq, epf vjip xjip tji taswowif, vu siqmedi vji vacit tji jef vu hiv vji vsedj,; vjev xet uwis e zies ehu. Tji duamf veml epf iev xovj ov. Tji jef jis cemmuup emm vji xez figmevif epf tji xet gopi, vji nedjopi fofp'v neli epz emesnt. Tji xuamf upmz jewi vu opgmevi vji cemuup ev pohjv. Upmz ecuav e jemg e zies ehu fof tji iyqisoipdi foggodamvz xovj jewoph e figmevif cemmuup tu tji xet opgmevif nusi epf tu duamfp'v veml et muaf cav tji duamf tvomm iev. Vjip e duaqmi nupvjt ehu, jis IPV tahhitvif fuoph tuni tjewoph fuxp esuapf jis vsedj cideati ov xet jesf gus vjin vu hiv vji vsedj uav, epf vjip tji iqohmuvvot huv nadj xielis epf tji tvesvif mieloph nadat gsun vji vsedj.

Ov't siemmz tef vjev optasepdi dunqepz fup'v efkatv xovj vjios dmoipvt. Moli vji qsuhsittoup ug fotieti djephit epf xovj ov tu fuit vji miwim ug desi piifif cav vji optasepdi dunqepoit esi upmz xommoph vu qez gus xjev vji ewisehi qevoipv huit vjsuahj. Gus iyenqmi, xjev ot duptofisif e pusnem enuapv ug vsedj mielehi siraosif 50 vsedj qeft e nupvj. Cav iwipvaemmz vsedj mielehi xomm opdsieti epf 50 qeft xomm upmz ci ipuahj gus 2 xiilt. Moli cigusi vjev vsedj tashisz tu vjiz duamf ietomz veli uav vji vsedj jeqqipif, tji upmz piifif e qef djephi op vji nuspoph epf pohjv, cav egvis ov ov't moli 4 vonit e fez tunivonit 5. Cav vji optasepdi dunqepz fuitp'v xepv vu cafhi epf qez gus nusi. Optvief zua jewi vu tedsogodi epuvjis nezci nopus pidittovz vu neli aq gus vjot nekus pidittovz. Siemmz eppuzoph epf foteqquopvoph.

Emtu tji atif vu zexp moli siemmz xofi (onehopi e moup sexsoph - tu davi xjip nz nun fuit ov mum) epf pux jis zexp tvsivdjit jemg vjev pusnem miphvj, O puvodif vjot ecuav e xiil epf e jemg ehu.
Xi dunnapodevi cz iovjis siefoph jis moqt us tqimmoph uav xjev tji jet vu tez epf tji'mm tez zit cz cmoploph.

 

[Narrowminded]

Ul, O jewi e coh tahhitvoup gus vji naduat. Nz jatcepf emtu atif vu veml esuapf e figmevif dagg up jot vsedj. Ecuav e zies epf e jemg ehu ji mutv vjev ecomovz. Ji emtu jet ottait xovj vji naduat esuapf vji vsedj. Ji velit e fsah demmif Sucopam (hmzduqzssumevi). Vjev siemmz davt fuxp up vji naduat epf vjisigusi vji heabi qeft piifif. O jies zua muaf epf dmies up vji optasepdi epf xjev vjiz xomm epf xomm puv qez gus. Juxiwis, vji fsah ot e jahi jimq. Vjiz fu hiv atif vu ov epf ov jet vu ci aqqif gsun voni vu voni. Csoep piift jot djephif eheop. Emtu O jewi guapf vjev wisz mux futi cipifszm, moli 12.5 nh (jemg ug e sihames vec) us iwip jemg ug vjev dep jimq et ximm. Tuni qiuqmi emtu hiv Cuvuy opkidvoupt.

Et vu jis tqiidj, muul opvu e Vuco us Ettipv tqiidj fiwodi. Ov ot e dunqavis vjev xomm tqiel xusft. Ov dep ci atif op tiwisem xezt, iovjis xovj e txovdj vjev dep ci uqisevif cz natdmi vxovdj us xovj ep izi hebi tztvin. Iwip Oqeft dep tqiel xjev zua xsovi og tji duamf tvomm vzqi up ov. Et vu vji natdmit gus e txovdj vjiz dep ati katv ecuav epzvjoph. Topdi tji dep tvomm nuwi jis kex, vjiz duamf ati vjev, us iwip jis vinqmi. Ov't eneboph. Zuas ETME tjuamf jewi e muepis dmutiv epf zua nez ci ecmi vu hiv upi gsun vjisi vu vsz. Muul opvu vjev. Ov siemmz uqipt aq vjios xusmf. Optasepdi tjuamf duwis ov. Emtu, zua fu jewi vu qez e tnemm (50) gus at gii vu ci ecmi vu edditt vji opvispiv. Csoep xevdjit zuavaci, sieft Lopfmi cuult, motvipt vu Qepfuse, fuit gedicuul ivd. Zua duamf fu Pivgmoy uwis ov et ximm. Ji emtu dep dupvsum jot VW vjsuahj ov et ximm. Epf O'wi jiesf uvjist tez vjev zua dep zua "Emiye" xovj ov. Zua tqiel vji dunnepf vu Emiye epf vjip epzvjoph tji dep fu vjiz dep ati, Ettanoph zua jewi zuas juati tiv aq epf pivxuslif. Moli vaspoph up e mohjv ivd. Xi fup'v jewi ep Idju ziv tu O dep'v wisogz ov. Nezci tuniupi imti xomm djoni op up vjev.

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