codyclan
Distinguished member
- Joined
- Jan 26, 2014
- Messages
- 402
- Reason
- Lost a loved one
- Diagnosis
- 02/2014
- Country
- US
- State
- VA
- City
- Round Hill
S&S,
I see that you are in Fairfax Virginia. I am in Loudoun as a teacher and my husband is at the point where he really can't be alone in the house as he uses the bipap frequently and can't the mask on and off himself and is unable to transfer himself. He had a hospitalization in June. I spent much of the last school year piece-mealing care and using FML. I have learned a lot.
First of all, after the hospitalization, we ignored the hospital social worker's advice and pushed the doc to request 28 hours of care through Medicare--8 of that is skilled nursing, OT and PT, the remaining 20 is home health services which includes an aid who helps with bathing, the feeding tube and sits with him when I am at work. That leaves me with only 20 hours to cover privately and we have a wonderful church community that is helping with some of that and the rest we pay for privately.
Secondly, and I am assuming that Fairfax's policies are similar to Loudoun's, so I am not sure why you won't have sick leave to use. Our family sick leave bank, sick leave accrual and FML resets at the begining of each new school year. So I get my year's worth of sick and personal leave at the beginning of each year. I use intermittent leave so that I can fill in any care gaps and still work as much as I can and keep the paycheck coming.
Lastly, I treasure my time teaching for many reasons. Yes, I feel guilty, often, and he is absolutely the priority, but the reality is that his current status could continue for a long time, or not--there's no way to know. And we do not have the FTD component, so that is a different factor to consider. That said, I like my job, always have and he knows that. I find a great deal of support from my collegues and it is great to feel normal for at least a part of the day or week. I come home with interesting stories and am mentally stimulated which ultimately benefits him. Also, looking ahead, I think that going to work at a job I love, with a steady paycheck, in a school I know well, and with people I know and care for will be comforting for me when our situation changes. I totally understand your feeling that it is difficult to both jobs well, I feel that way OFTEN, but my admin is supportive and overall, for us, the pros outweigh the cons.
Just a few thoughts.
Tracy
I would be happy to discuss any of this information privately, since we are so close geographically. Just let me know.
I see that you are in Fairfax Virginia. I am in Loudoun as a teacher and my husband is at the point where he really can't be alone in the house as he uses the bipap frequently and can't the mask on and off himself and is unable to transfer himself. He had a hospitalization in June. I spent much of the last school year piece-mealing care and using FML. I have learned a lot.
First of all, after the hospitalization, we ignored the hospital social worker's advice and pushed the doc to request 28 hours of care through Medicare--8 of that is skilled nursing, OT and PT, the remaining 20 is home health services which includes an aid who helps with bathing, the feeding tube and sits with him when I am at work. That leaves me with only 20 hours to cover privately and we have a wonderful church community that is helping with some of that and the rest we pay for privately.
Secondly, and I am assuming that Fairfax's policies are similar to Loudoun's, so I am not sure why you won't have sick leave to use. Our family sick leave bank, sick leave accrual and FML resets at the begining of each new school year. So I get my year's worth of sick and personal leave at the beginning of each year. I use intermittent leave so that I can fill in any care gaps and still work as much as I can and keep the paycheck coming.
Lastly, I treasure my time teaching for many reasons. Yes, I feel guilty, often, and he is absolutely the priority, but the reality is that his current status could continue for a long time, or not--there's no way to know. And we do not have the FTD component, so that is a different factor to consider. That said, I like my job, always have and he knows that. I find a great deal of support from my collegues and it is great to feel normal for at least a part of the day or week. I come home with interesting stories and am mentally stimulated which ultimately benefits him. Also, looking ahead, I think that going to work at a job I love, with a steady paycheck, in a school I know well, and with people I know and care for will be comforting for me when our situation changes. I totally understand your feeling that it is difficult to both jobs well, I feel that way OFTEN, but my admin is supportive and overall, for us, the pros outweigh the cons.
Just a few thoughts.
Tracy
I would be happy to discuss any of this information privately, since we are so close geographically. Just let me know.
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