Barbie
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- Joined
- Dec 29, 2007
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- Reason
- Lost a loved one
- Diagnosis
- 01/2007
- Country
- US
- State
- FL
- City
- orlando
I am so Cheesed at my "kids"!
I have 3 living at home, in their late teens/early twenties. free room and board and lots of perks and few chores. They help with dad, but really not very much in the big picture. So I decided that I was going to do Yoga one nite a week (1.5 hours only) but I needed help with dad. They all said they would help, after some eye rolling. I asked that each kid take one week--so every 3 weeks they would have to give up a couple of hours to feed their dad and help him in and out of bed for a nap and just pay attention to him.
So Last nite, I get home at 8 and husband is fit to be tied--internet had been out all day, and when kids came home no one would help him get it fixed, and no one but him down for a nap and then the kid who was in charge of dinner didn't get home until 6:30. He is mad and yelling at me because I didn't answer my phone (uh, I was in YOGA) and no one would help him. One kid was n't even home yet, one who normally gives him naps was "too tired" to deal with him, so had gone to his room at 3 pm and didn't come down until 9 pm., and the other had come home at 6:30, fed him dinner and not cleaned the kitchen and gone up to her room.
Really?!:-x
I work my ### off, 24/7 . I have a job, I take care of the house, I pay the bills, I care for their dad. They know all this, they say they care and want me to have a little time for me, but they are just giving it lip service. they are not willing to really do anything with out complete prodding from me. Then they get mad at me for blowing up, but I have talked until I am blue in the face. it doesn't change a thing if I do blow up--except that I am disgusted by them.
I got home, I got yelled at by him, I cleaned the kitchen, then I had to jump in the car and drive into town to get a part for his computer so it would work today, got home and helped him in the bathroom. needless to say, I was not very "ZEN" after all that.
Dammit! I just wish they could understand how selfish they behave and how they hurt their dad and make him feel like a burden.
just venting...
I have 3 living at home, in their late teens/early twenties. free room and board and lots of perks and few chores. They help with dad, but really not very much in the big picture. So I decided that I was going to do Yoga one nite a week (1.5 hours only) but I needed help with dad. They all said they would help, after some eye rolling. I asked that each kid take one week--so every 3 weeks they would have to give up a couple of hours to feed their dad and help him in and out of bed for a nap and just pay attention to him.
So Last nite, I get home at 8 and husband is fit to be tied--internet had been out all day, and when kids came home no one would help him get it fixed, and no one but him down for a nap and then the kid who was in charge of dinner didn't get home until 6:30. He is mad and yelling at me because I didn't answer my phone (uh, I was in YOGA) and no one would help him. One kid was n't even home yet, one who normally gives him naps was "too tired" to deal with him, so had gone to his room at 3 pm and didn't come down until 9 pm., and the other had come home at 6:30, fed him dinner and not cleaned the kitchen and gone up to her room.
Really?!:-x
I work my ### off, 24/7 . I have a job, I take care of the house, I pay the bills, I care for their dad. They know all this, they say they care and want me to have a little time for me, but they are just giving it lip service. they are not willing to really do anything with out complete prodding from me. Then they get mad at me for blowing up, but I have talked until I am blue in the face. it doesn't change a thing if I do blow up--except that I am disgusted by them.
I got home, I got yelled at by him, I cleaned the kitchen, then I had to jump in the car and drive into town to get a part for his computer so it would work today, got home and helped him in the bathroom. needless to say, I was not very "ZEN" after all that.
Dammit! I just wish they could understand how selfish they behave and how they hurt their dad and make him feel like a burden.
just venting...