mrstadpole
Member
- Joined
- Sep 12, 2007
- Messages
- 28
- Reason
- Loved one DX
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- US
- State
- California
- City
- Cathderal City
Hi everyone!
I'm struggling a little bit today with what is my own guilt. As most of you know, my dad has had issues with his caregiver and I am working on making some changes for him. At first, I thought it would be great to have him move in with my family. I'm married with 3 boys.. 8, 10 & 15. My husband and I both work full time and I would need to hire a nurse to come in a few days a week, for a few hours at a time, to look after him.
After speaking with his case manager and re-evaluating things, I am wondering if it would just be best to find a great home for dad. He's progressing rather quickly and I feel as though doing so would simplify things in the end because he wouldn't need to be moved again. He's going to be fitted for his electric wheel chair on 11/3 and has a referral to see the doctor for his g-tube. He's constantly falling and getting hurt and his choking is getting worse... nevermind the fact that he refuses to give up smoking. LOL! He says "it's not going to kill me!"
I'm sorry if it seems as though I am rambling.. I am just so confused. I want my dad home.. where he belongs; but I know in my heart that he will not get the care he needs, as I will not be able to physically handle a lot of the things he will need done.. like cleaning his feeding tube.. I will probably pass out. LOL.. am I wrong for having these thoughts or should I just suck it up and deal with it?
Thanks!
Kari
I'm struggling a little bit today with what is my own guilt. As most of you know, my dad has had issues with his caregiver and I am working on making some changes for him. At first, I thought it would be great to have him move in with my family. I'm married with 3 boys.. 8, 10 & 15. My husband and I both work full time and I would need to hire a nurse to come in a few days a week, for a few hours at a time, to look after him.
After speaking with his case manager and re-evaluating things, I am wondering if it would just be best to find a great home for dad. He's progressing rather quickly and I feel as though doing so would simplify things in the end because he wouldn't need to be moved again. He's going to be fitted for his electric wheel chair on 11/3 and has a referral to see the doctor for his g-tube. He's constantly falling and getting hurt and his choking is getting worse... nevermind the fact that he refuses to give up smoking. LOL! He says "it's not going to kill me!"
I'm sorry if it seems as though I am rambling.. I am just so confused. I want my dad home.. where he belongs; but I know in my heart that he will not get the care he needs, as I will not be able to physically handle a lot of the things he will need done.. like cleaning his feeding tube.. I will probably pass out. LOL.. am I wrong for having these thoughts or should I just suck it up and deal with it?
Thanks!
Kari