codyclan
Distinguished member
- Joined
- Jan 26, 2014
- Messages
- 402
- Reason
- Lost a loved one
- Diagnosis
- 02/2014
- Country
- US
- State
- VA
- City
- Round Hill
So here's the lowdown. Last year my husband bought me airline tickets to see a dear friend of mine who has a home in Ireland and will be there on July 12. He was independently able to transfer at the time he bought the tickets. By April of this year, it was clear that he would need more assistance than our two daughters would be able to provide. I said I shouldn't go on the trip. He spoke with our home health aid, his sister and our two adult daughters, without my knowledge, and made all the plans for respite while I would be gone.
Fast forward to this month. He had a feeding tube inserted two weeks ago and spent several days in the hospital as he had difficulty adjusting to the feeding and formula. He is on feeding pump, is home and is doing better with regard to nutrition. However, several days in the hospital did a number on his strength and he is now using the bi-pap for about 16 hours a day (on and off during the day and all night). I have travel insurance and am feeling terrible about going on the trip. Both our daughters (ages 22 and 24), and his sister have said that I should go. More importantly, he wants me to go. He has always prided himself on being able to travel with his family. It is difficult for him to travel, but he still wants us to be able to travel and has said so repeatedly.
Someone will be in the home at all times and I would be gone a week. I vacillate about leaving because I don't know if I can relax being so far from home. He actually seems hurt that I would consider not going. But on the other hand, if something were to happen if I am out of the country--how would I live with myself?
I am just looking for some objective thoughts.
Tracy
Fast forward to this month. He had a feeding tube inserted two weeks ago and spent several days in the hospital as he had difficulty adjusting to the feeding and formula. He is on feeding pump, is home and is doing better with regard to nutrition. However, several days in the hospital did a number on his strength and he is now using the bi-pap for about 16 hours a day (on and off during the day and all night). I have travel insurance and am feeling terrible about going on the trip. Both our daughters (ages 22 and 24), and his sister have said that I should go. More importantly, he wants me to go. He has always prided himself on being able to travel with his family. It is difficult for him to travel, but he still wants us to be able to travel and has said so repeatedly.
Someone will be in the home at all times and I would be gone a week. I vacillate about leaving because I don't know if I can relax being so far from home. He actually seems hurt that I would consider not going. But on the other hand, if something were to happen if I am out of the country--how would I live with myself?
I am just looking for some objective thoughts.
Tracy