Barbie
Extremely helpful member
- Joined
- Dec 29, 2007
- Messages
- 2,681
- Reason
- Lost a loved one
- Diagnosis
- 01/2007
- Country
- US
- State
- FL
- City
- orlando
Today is the first anniversary of Lonny's death. It seems much longer and so much shorter all at the same time for me.
What a sad day. I am filled with memories of that day and the pain and sorrow. My heart is hurting and I feel so very fragile. The last few months leading up to September 30, 2015 were so HARD and when I think back to what we went through and what a living hell it was for our family... I just can’t understand why. But I am also filled with bittersweet happiness that his suffering ended after 9 long years and I truly believe he is in a better place running and laughing again.
Because of Lonny I have had a beautiful life. I have 4 amazing children that I love with all my heart and soul. I have his extended family that I love like my own. I have felt deep love and joy and excruciating sorrow. I learned about humility from him in his final years, and selflessness, and real struggle. I learned how strong I am and what the human spirit can endure.
This year has been so strange...it took me 8 months just to remember him as he was before ALS. And oh I miss that man. I wish so much that I could spend just one more day with that man. That man loved me with all my imperfections. And I loved him. I thought we would grow old together, but of course that was not to be.
The only thing I can say is that life is a precious gift and you are not promised even one more hour. Don’t take this gift for granted—live like you mean it every single day. Tell someone you love them. Give them a hug. Open up your heart. Forgive yourself. Take a chance. Say yes. Don’t hold back. These are things we all need. This is how I am trying to live.
This forum kept me sane and helped me be the best wife and caregiver and PALS I could be, every day. Honestly, I think of you guys as my closest and dearest friends. I think of you daily still. Thank god for this forum even though I don't understand why we all had to be here. never will I guess. xxxxxxxxxoooooooo
What a sad day. I am filled with memories of that day and the pain and sorrow. My heart is hurting and I feel so very fragile. The last few months leading up to September 30, 2015 were so HARD and when I think back to what we went through and what a living hell it was for our family... I just can’t understand why. But I am also filled with bittersweet happiness that his suffering ended after 9 long years and I truly believe he is in a better place running and laughing again.
Because of Lonny I have had a beautiful life. I have 4 amazing children that I love with all my heart and soul. I have his extended family that I love like my own. I have felt deep love and joy and excruciating sorrow. I learned about humility from him in his final years, and selflessness, and real struggle. I learned how strong I am and what the human spirit can endure.
This year has been so strange...it took me 8 months just to remember him as he was before ALS. And oh I miss that man. I wish so much that I could spend just one more day with that man. That man loved me with all my imperfections. And I loved him. I thought we would grow old together, but of course that was not to be.
The only thing I can say is that life is a precious gift and you are not promised even one more hour. Don’t take this gift for granted—live like you mean it every single day. Tell someone you love them. Give them a hug. Open up your heart. Forgive yourself. Take a chance. Say yes. Don’t hold back. These are things we all need. This is how I am trying to live.
This forum kept me sane and helped me be the best wife and caregiver and PALS I could be, every day. Honestly, I think of you guys as my closest and dearest friends. I think of you daily still. Thank god for this forum even though I don't understand why we all had to be here. never will I guess. xxxxxxxxxoooooooo